Would you be annoyed?

coinxoperated

podperson wrote: »

Tbh I think you might need to talk to him again and make things a bit clearer so to what you're wanting. You've asked him to back off a bit and not 'pressure' you into sex as you're tired/stressed/anxious etc. Fair enough and he's tried to do so, but now he's probably thinking each time he feels like it whether if he tries it on then he's pushing you/annoying you/stressing you out etc. so is thinking it's easier just to 'go solo' then risk upsetting you or getting rejected.

Can I ask, the times that you do still have sex, does he initiate it or do you ever do it? If it's the former then maybe you doing it once in a while would him feel that you do still 'want to' and aren't just putting up with so to speak.

I do initiate it as much as he does now... So its not that!

Fire_Fox

coinxoperated wrote: »

I do initiate it as much as he does now... So its not that!

IMO it is. You are only having sex once to twice a week which means you are only initiating one a week to once a fortnight, as is he! Yet he would ideally have sex several times every day and would seemingly be satisfied with four to six times a week. Ergo he is holding back. A lot.

Please don't get me wrong I am not in any way criticising or blaming you, it is what it is neither of you can help being mismatched. But even many highly sexed ladies would not appreciate being awoken for bedroom fun past the initial honeymoon stage of the relationship, particularly if they have indicated they are tired and stressed.

Many guys are not comfortable with watching !!!!!! with their partner or with their partner knowing, whereas others find it totally hot. Again it is what it is not a personal slight. Maybe he did it beside you as a "danger w**k"? If you aren't happy with that you have every right to say so, but accept that a highly sexed guy has to get an outlet somewhere and men are very visual creatures.