anyone fancy a chat?

spud30

sured wrote: »

ok, i'm on the brink of booking that weekend in spain,
but before i do, i would like your opinions please,

OH wanted to go watch footy at 5'ish yesterday,
wanted me to go but i didnt fancy it,

so he offered to take me out for lunch,
as he said he would feel guilty going out without me,
i said ok we go for lunch and then you go out with your mate,
everything fine,
he then picks me up, and his mate is in the car,
i refused lunch and just had a drink, i hate people watching me eat,

he's now making me feel like i've done something wrong,

am i wrong to be upset?

No, I think I would be a bit upset, two's company and all that.

sured

thanks spud, just wanted to check i wasnt being an idiot,
he even told me not to phone him as he doesnt want to talk to me,
alicante here i come,

spud30

sured wrote: »

thanks spud, just wanted to check i wasnt being an idiot,
he even told me not to phone him as he doesnt want to talk to me,
alicante here i come,

He does seem to be over reacting slightly doesnt he :rolleyes:

Have a fantastic time.

sured

i will, thanks to all of you,

the support on here is amazing.

ooh just remembered, never been away by myself :eek:

kathfisch

sured wrote: »

i will, thanks to all of you,

the support on here is amazing.

ooh just remembered, never been away by myself :eek:

Joining in a bit late I know....

Going away by yourself is really fun, especially if you've never done it before! Its lovely to be completely in control of everything and just do what you want. But then I am the kind of person who likes to be on my own.

I would say though... maybe don't book anything in the heat of the moment? Just in case you regret it later but can't get out of it. But if you can afford it then it can't hurt to have a bit of 'you time'

Kath

sured

kathfisch wrote: »

Joining in a bit late I know....

Going away by yourself is really fun, especially if you've never done it before! Its lovely to be completely in control of everything and just do what you want. But then I am the kind of person who likes to be on my own.

I would say though... maybe don't book anything in the heat of the moment? Just in case you regret it later but can't get out of it. But if you can afford it then it can't hurt to have a bit of 'you time'

Kath

thanks kath, it will be great, i'm sure,
wont book tonight,
i will wait till the light of day to be sure its what i want to do,
have to say i never thought of it like that,
no more seedy bars,
just hours spent on sunbed with my book,
[STRIKE]WE[/STRIKE] i can afford it from joint account
sounds like heaven,
thank you
sue

kathfisch

Sometimes I find having time away on my own or with friends can make me enjoy time with my partner more (well, no partner at the moment, but in the past!). I know it was the feeling that I only ever spent time/went out/did anything with one person that made me fed up and made me resent that person. 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder' as they say. A bit of time by yourself (even better if its somewhere sunny!) can make you feel more like 'you' as a separate person and less like one half of a partnership with someone who p!sses you off sometimes!!

I'm off to bed now... sorry I couldn't chat longer... enjoy booking some time away if you decide to!

Kath x

lynsayjane

kath I'm gonna have to disagree on the abcense making the heart grow fonder bit. twice I've gotten into relationships where I always did things with oh and seldom without. I'm a typical libran that way, we get into relationships easier than most as we dont' like being lonely. Twice I've had time on my own after long periods together (two years and one year) and realised that familiarity breeds contempt. Both relationships finished shortly after I returned.

I'd like to add though that that was the right thing for me to do as I am both happier and more productive without those two partners. I can't say which way it will go for you sured, but rest assured that it will be the right direction for you. Hope your week picks up tomorrow with all these holiday plans! I'm hoping to go away for my bday in october and not only will it be my first holiday but I'm probably going alone too :eek: scary but exciting at the same time!

freebird65

I spent YEARS of my youff travelling - ALONE - and absolutely loved most of it - it's liberating, great fun, you can be totally selfish and please yourself and above all it makes you go out and meet people....and that's one of the most rewarding experiences ever! Believe me ladies, it is easily done and not half as scary as you think - and afterwards you have the greatest sense of achievement....

newleaf

Sorry I couldn't hang around yesterday, I was feeling very unwell - but I'm much better today and I hope you are feeling better too? What have you decided to do about your trip?
It sounds like your lack of personal time/social life might be something you need to address in the longer term though. Some time away could give you the opportunity to think about that, but time out on it's own will not fix the underlying problem.