Son has ran out of cash

opinions4u

This is your one and only time bailing him out. Please.

Any food you order should be the cheapo supermarket own brand. Pasta, rice, beans, own brand tea bags. No cakes, biscuits or crisps. No "finest". No "ooh he really likes that, I'll treat him".

He has to learn.

ALIBOBSY

opinions4u wrote: »

This is your one and only time bailing him out. Please.

Any food you order should be the cheapo supermarket own brand. Pasta, rice, beans, own brand tea bags. No cakes, biscuits or crisps. No "finest". No "ooh he really likes that, I'll treat him".

He has to learn.

I agree with this. TBH although uni students are legally adults, lets face it most of them aren't really. Some are very sensible and grow up quickly, but many are just big school kids-remember most will have just left school/6th form and living at home with their parents for the first time. So yes I would bail my kids out the first time (shh I won't tell them that though lol).

But I think the order as above is a good idea, no treats, just value stuff to "live". At half term when he comes home its time to sit down and have a serious talk, and some lessons on cheap basic meals cooked from cheap value products and basic items will also help.

Kids eh!

Ali x

dalesrider

ALIBOBSY wrote: »

although uni students are legally adults, lets face it most of them aren't really. Some are very sensible and grow up quickly, but many are just big school kids-remember

Ali x

Given the sights I see on the way home from work. I go passed a area that has a heavy student population and into town....
Adults they clearly are not....
Freshers weeks are the worst. They are streaming from pub to pub in fancy dress from around 17:00 till god knows what time.

So unless they have won the lottery. Any cash is long gone on anything non food related very quickly :rotfl:

Perhaps for the 1st year they should be given a weekly allowance that can only be spent on food.

Zorz_2

Desperate_Housewife wrote: »

I left home at 17 and went hungry for 3 days (by that I mean I had nothing but water) because I simply ran out of money, my parents were strict and never bailed me out. I got paid on the wednesday, went to a cafe and bought a slap up meal and vowed I would never go hungry again. I never did, the taste of hunger taught me a lesson, harsh but true and I never looked back.

Cue the video...: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gn26pEDEhyY
:rotfl:

I agree though that he needs some basic food delivered (not money) and
budgeting lessons afterwards!

pmduk

Don't forget, we don't even know that the individual in question is a student. The initial post refers to him being in full time employment. Having said that, living in a student area, many of them aren't mature enough to be let out on their own.

InsideInsurance

ALIBOBSY wrote: »

TBH although uni students are legally adults, lets face it most of them aren't really.

But that is a function of how they have been brought up, by parents shielding them etc.

I am not suggesting kids should be kicked out the family home at 14 and totally cut off but by continually rescuing them, providing everything for them etc we are creating a generation of kids in their 20s

A cousin came to stay with us recently, a 30 year old guy who had no idea how to fry an egg or make beans on toast, didn't know how to change a fuse on a plug and spent his 3 week budget on the very first day.