should I just back off??? maybe sensitive to some

gizmo111

oliviasmummy wrote: »

Her daughter is still living with her and I know she can't cut all contact due to the pregnancy its just so frustrating that she can't seem what he's really like even when she is given it in black and white. She just says he said its not true!!! But the police reports say otherwise and she doesn't seem to understand they wouldn't say all this on the report if it wasn't true!! I will be there for her no matter what I have said this too her and said I know it won't be easy but she has to do what's right for her children. She is going through a ore birth assessment with social workers, they have told her its a whole new ball game if she isn't with him but she still hasn't told SS that they have separated. I would be more than willing as would my parents to care for both children if they were taken but the likely hood is we would have to apply for this and would only get the baby as my niece would go to her dad who has parental responsibility same as my sister

There's been a child protection conference? What's in the plan regarding this bloke.
Why does she want him at hopsital appointments - he has no right to be there.
It is not a given that your neice will go to her father - in care proceedings PR is not the overiding factor in placing a child, although it is highly likely. Why hasn't she been upfront with SS and told them she is now single - that is what they want to see.
If I was you I would support your sister by attending core groups and other meetings and see if you can get her to go to the Freedom Programme to learn more about the various types of DV.

londonsurrey

The only thing you can really proactively do is to watch out for your niece and see if you can gather enough evidence to apply to become her guardian if your sister persists in this relationship and the father shows the same behaviours as he has towards his previous children.

This is not to say that you are definitely going to be her guardian, but you're creating one more possible escape route for the child.

The mother is an adult, and makes her own choices. The child is unable to create such options for itself, and needs an adult who is keeping the child's bests interests paramount.

life_unexpected_2

I think that you have presented your sister with all the fact and at this time she is unwilling to believe them. So all you can do at this time is be there for your niece, as lets face it no matter how stupid you think the decisions are your sister can decide who she has in her life but your niece doesn't have this option.

Your sister hasn't told SS her relationships over, as lets face it if she is texting him up to 60 times a day and he I attending anti-natal appointments with her it really isn't.

Do you know what the child protection plan says about contact between your sister and this male, do they know he has been at her address or about the texting If not have you considered whether you should inform them of this. s if she is not to have any contact and should it come to them looking to place the baby with family and it comes out that you were aware of this information and didn't share it with them it could be seen as you colluding with your sister and lead to the baby being placed outside of the family.