Pms

Toto

I think I need to admit I suffer from PMS. For 2 weeks of the month I am happy and smiling, feeling life is full of joy. The other 2 weeks I cry over the daftest thing, mostly nothing, I feel utterly miserable, I just want to curl up and hide. One day last month I couldn't get out of bed, I was just lying there sobbing because I didn't want to face the day.

Yesterday I was ready to take on the world, today I have no energy, I can't be bothered to do anything, don't want to speak to anyone and I feel crap because I know I will feel this way for another couple of weeks. In truth, this has been going on for a couple of years (since mum died I guess) but it seems to be getting worse, I feel like such an idiot because I have nothing to be miserable about really, I have a great partner and 3 wonderful kids etc. Is there anything I can try to sort this out? I don't want to feel like this for the next 20 years or so.

heather38

are you on the pill? this can help pms, also do you get enough iron as this can affect moods esp if you are menstruating.
i have suffered with it since i was 13 and i'm 27 now, its hard for people to understand pms and it gets labeled 'womens problems' so i undersand what your feeling.
what about trying herbal tablets like kalms. i've never medicated but they may help you. i usually watch a soppy video and get all my crying out of the way and it makes me feel better!

Toto

I'm not on the pill, I can't take it. I have awful migraines and the pill can increase the risk of stroke. I was given the mini pill for a bit but progesterone seems to make the migraines worse so that's that out. I eat tons of leafy salad, spinich, watercress and rocket, at least once a day so I am guessing my iron is ok. Sometimes I try the soppy video thing, but even having a good old cry dones't help more than a few hours. I feel like such an idiot sometimes, especially when I see people with real problems and how they all cope so well. I might try some kalms, thanks for the suggestion.

kathfisch

Toto - is it definitely linked to your cycle? I only ask because the way you feel sounds like my (mild) depression... some days I just want to cry, I can't face the world and I can't for the life of me think why. Although, having said that, my cycle is so all over the place, my feelings could be linked to hormones! So you might just want to ignore what I said... :rolleyes: :rotfl:

Anyway, it was really your comment about it being since your mum died that made me think it might be a combination of hormones and other things. I know you mentioned on another thread about it being too late to have counselling etc over your mum's death (at least I think it was you ) but its never too late

Kath x

Toto

Thanks Kath, yes it was me who said that. I kind of feel like I should just get over mum, it's been almost 6 years. I was 31 when she went so not a kid. But I will think about councelling.

I think there is a hormonal pattern, it does seem to be 2 weeks good 2 weeks bad. It's really starting to affect my life though. I mean, I have a massive pile of laundry which has been sitting there all day and really needs doing, but I just can't be bothered. This is ok for one day I guess but I know everything will slip for the next week or so, I will then spend the remaining 2 weeks of the month running around sorting out everything I was too lazy to do.

It's given me the most amount of respect for people who suffer from depression day in day out, at least I know I will have a break from it in a few days.

Smiley_Mum

Evening primrose oil is supposed to help ease PMS symptoms. Also, I try and cut back on simple carbs too, and eat more fruit/salads etc/nuts/seeds etc. I'm a real sugar addict and cutting back on the simple carbs though I find helps.

kathfisch

Toto wrote: »

Thanks Kath, yes it was me who said that. I kind of feel like I should just get over mum, it's been almost 6 years. I was 31 when she went so not a kid. But I will think about councelling.

I think there is a hormonal pattern, it does seem to be 2 weeks good 2 weeks bad. It's really starting to affect my life though. I mean, I have a massive pile of laundry which has been sitting there all day and really needs doing, but I just can't be bothered. This is ok for one day I guess but I know everything will slip for the next week or so, I will then spend the remaining 2 weeks of the month running around sorting out everything I was too lazy to do.

It's given me the most amount of respect for people who suffer from depression day in day out, at least I know I will have a break from it in a few days.

Its never too late... my mum had counselling to deal with her issues with her parents (still alive but lots of issues) after she'd had very little contact with them for years and years... not the same as your situation but it is the same in that people might have thought that she should 'get over it' but its never as simple as that.

You're making me think I should keep a diary of how I feel at different times, I too have that feeling fab one day (which I never did during the time I suffered from depression) and then all of a sudden feeling desperately sad and lacking motivation to do anything, even things that are nice like have a shower or eat

But like I said, my cycle is so all over the place I've not connected it to that before.

Sorry, not a very helpful post for you I do know that a friend of mine got rid of her bad pms through changing her diet, it was quite radical but she said it was worth it. I can't remember the book she read but I'll let you know if I find out.

Kath x

crispeater

i suffer with pms 2 weeks before im due on and i take evening primrose oil, vitamin b complex, agnus cactus and before i took 5-htp combined with the depo injection and i was fine. once i came off the injection the 5-htp wasnt strong enough so i've now been put on 10mg citlopram and i feel sooo much better.
i wasnt as bad as not being able to get out of bed and do anything mine was more anger. i used to shout at my kids and the final straw came when i pushed my 3 year old over, this was on a sunday and monday morning i was at the doctors. im a lot better now

hope you get the help you need

crispeater

bumping to see if any other info on this thread for another sufferer