Bad Situation

confused_:S

Hi I'm after some advice.

I've been spending alot of time with a girl i like who happens to have a boyfriend, now their relationship is pretty much over but they are currently still together.

She lives with her boyfriend and works in the same town, the problem she has is she wants to break up with him and stay in the area but she has no family or anyone to stay with so if she broke up she would be homeless.

She's on an apprentice wage so not sure if she could get a place to rent on her own and i live with parents so its not really an option to stay with me.

I'm just trying to think of ways for her to get out of this situation but i'm drawing a blank, any advice?

Del_Astra

Does she have any other friends that she could flat share with, has she looked for a room to rent locally?

If I were you I would give her a bit space, if she is in a relationship or ending one, she is unliekly to want to jump straight back in. Beside you don't want to be seen as contributing the the end / break up.

confused_:S

Del_Astra wrote: »

Does she have any other friends that she could flat share with, has she looked for a room to rent locally?

If I were you I would give her a bit space, if she is in a relationship or ending one, she is unliekly to want to jump straight back in. Beside you don't want to be seen as contributing the the end / break up.

Thats what i was thinking, i dont want to influence the decision.

I think the main issue really is accommodation, she has no friends locally that would be able to put her up but if they did split and she had nowhere to live can the council help?

In an ideal world i guess her boyfriend should let her stay at theirs until she gets somewhere to live but during breakups this rarely happens

krlyr

Has she tried somewhere like spareroom.co.uk for a house share or a lodger type setup? Or looked into whether she's eligible for any benefits - www.entitledto.co.uk

confused_:S

Hi Krlyr, thanks thats exactly the thing i'm after. Spareroom may be a long shot as she lives in a small town but i'll pass this onto her.

confused_:S

Just tried spareroom and there's a few in the area so thanks again i didnt even know this existed!

podperson

She could try looking for flat/room shares in the local area. If she does actually become homeless then the council will have to find her somewhere - but since she's a single person this will probably just be a room at a hostel or something. Obviously better then sleeping on the street but not usually the most pleasant of places.

Fire_Fox

Steer clear, she should be resolving her personal issues before 'spending a lot of time' with you. She could claim top up benefits if she is on a particularly low income. If she was that keen to split up with him she would be the one posting not you, sorry.

coinxoperated

I'm sorry, but it's likely she's looking for a 'way out' as much as she can, and if your around, you'll do.

Leaving a long term relationship is very difficult, especially if your the one making the final decision to leave. It's scary, the unknown, and life is simpler to just sit and wait for something great to happen.

She's met you, realised her bf isn't what she wants, and she will milk your support. Once she's 'free' she'll likely want to be 'free' and not want as other relationship to deal with or be serious about.

I would walk away, tell her when she's sorted herself out to get in touch. If she wants you enough she'll come back when she's emotionally recovered.

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