Am I Too Hard on DD ?

nadnad

sonee2405 wrote: »

Sometimes learning the hard way is best though-you can't value money unless you earn it and you realise how difficult life can be for yourself and others if you don't spend it sensibly and save it just in case.Children should be told about bills and expense and the benefits of saving and spending to maketheir lives easier and better in future.You can give children the best of everything for ages and just one occasion my crop up when you can't afford or aren't able to afford something for them-kids forget and disregard everything easily and they will forget the goodtimes and the previous expense and instead remember the one-off occasion when they had to go without something and that is much harder to understand for children and even worse for a parent to see.

so you think its ok for 12 year old to worry about bills? you think its right that children should have the same level of worry as their parents? surely not, as I said many adults cannot cope with financial worries so how does anyone expect a child too?

as i've said i fully agree with teaching children the value of money and that they cant have everything they want but no way on earth should any child ever have to worry about where the money is coming from to feed and clothe them.

Red_Fraggle_3

iglimpse wrote: »

Personally I feel your ex is being irresponsible giving the money to her. In an ideal world, he should give it to you and then you use it for her things, giving her some of it for herself. Of course she probably would not contemplate that now

How much is he going to give her when she is 16 when the bigger social life expenses start?

Yes well - irresponsible that is why we were in the debt - DD does know about the bills and has a good grasp on the situation - and for most of her friends she has had to grow up fast - money to me if I was on fire he would have prob lit it

I am lucky he gives her money for spending and some of that pays her dance lessons which I said she would have to stop as I couldn't afford it

Red_Fraggle_3

nadnad wrote: »

so you think its ok for 12 year old to worry about bills? you think its right that children should have the same level of worry as their parents? surely not, as I said many adults cannot cope with financial worries so how does anyone expect a child too?

as i've said i fully agree with teaching children the value of money and that they cant have everything they want but no way on earth should any child ever have to worry about where the money is coming from to feed and clothe them.

She has seen me at my worst when there was not enough money for school lunches - she does have a respect for money -but they are also kids - she works hard and school, ebays unwanted old items and has a canny way of finding the best 3 for 2's on presents etc. If she could work she woudl - if I ask her to do a job she does

Children do pick up on the worry (she does) - I certainly dont want her worrying about that when at 12 these days there seems so much to worry about

Kimberley

nadnad wrote: »

so you think its ok for 12 year old to worry about bills? you think its right that children should have the same level of worry as their parents? surely not, as I said many adults cannot cope with financial worries so how does anyone expect a child too?

as i've said i fully agree with teaching children the value of money and that they cant have everything they want but no way on earth should any child ever have to worry about where the money is coming from to feed and clothe them.

I agree with you, kids shouldn't have that burden, the only thing you'll be doing is putting worry on the kids. You can tell them your on a budget because money is tight but thats all they need to know.