is this right

princessdon

I find it remarkable that people are outraged when they don't get benefits for their adult children who are working?

At what point do they think we should pay them? Till they marry, till they move out of home? or forever?

Dunroamin

anguk wrote: »

If your son moves out he'll probably find that it costs him much more than £135 a week to live, my daughter pays £97 a week for cheap halls of residence and she has food to buy on top of that.

I would say £135 a week is a fair amount for your son to pay, it would cover the extra rent and council tax plus a bit extra for food, electricity, gas etc. he'd still have £165 disposable income each week which is a sizeable amount for an 18 year old.

The OP's confusion is confusing you as well.

The OP's son will need to pay between £65 and £70 per week rent/council tax and then an additional amount for his share of food and utilities. There should be no reason for him to make up the £65 that the OP loses in child related benefits as these are intended to cover not only the food and utilities but also things like educational expenses, pocket money and clothes, which it will no longer be the OP's responsibility to cover.

Paying somewhere between £100/£120 per week for rent, food and all household expenses is a bargain.

GP1_3

Found out today that we do receive DLA
By some of the replies i can see there is a bitter feeling out there, i am sorry if my post was not very well writting and i'm glad this is just a forum and not a court as i would of been hang draw and quarter.
Just to let some of you know that i gave a job up that paid more than £50k a year but i love my wife dearly and she didn't want a stranger looking after her. i used the saving we had for 3 years before claiming and it felt so degrading.
thankyou for those who gave me some good points and advice.

Dunroamin

GP1 wrote: »

Found out today that we do receive DLA
By some of the replies i can see there is a bitter feeling out there, i am sorry if my post was not very well writting and i'm glad this is just a forum and not a court as i would of been hang draw and quarter.
Just to let some of you know that i gave a job up that paid more than £50k a year but i love my wife dearly and she didn't want a stranger looking after her. i used the saving we had for 3 years before claiming and it felt so degrading.
thankyou for those who gave me some good points and advice.

I'm afraid that you must have been reading a different thread!

nannytone_2

if your wife receives DLA, there should be no non dependant reduction of your housing/council tax benefit,

all you should lose is the child related benefits

krisskross

GP1 wrote: »

Found out today that we do receive DLA
By some of the replies i can see there is a bitter feeling out there, i am sorry if my post was not very well writting and i'm glad this is just a forum and not a court as i would of been hang draw and quarter.
Just to let some of you know that i gave a job up that paid more than £50k a year but i love my wife dearly and she didn't want a stranger looking after her. i used the saving we had for 3 years before claiming and it felt so degrading.
thankyou for those who gave me some good points and advice.

Do you claim carer's allowance?

Seems a bit odd that you didn't know DLA was in payment though.

faerie~spangles

If your adult son remains living at home he will have to pay his way.

Good on him if he can get digs, food, laundry etc. for less than it would cost him to continue to live at home.

margaretclare

As others have said, You don't get benefits for a child who is no longer a child, nor for a dependent who is no longer a dependent.

Your son is lucky enough to be employed. He's old enough, and earns quite enough, to be contributing to the household expenses and that's what you were told originally by the DWP. You don't need benefits for his support. He supports himself and as long as he lives at home, he pays into the household budget.

Time was, before benefits became so widespread, this simple fact was well-known to all. Child leaves school on Friday, starts work on Monday, the first pay-day he/she would be expected to hand over money for what was called 'your keep'.

DH tells of when he was an engineering apprentice long ago. He was paid a tiny amount weekly and the first week he solemnly handed over his brown paper pay-packet complete to his Mum. It was such a pathetic amount, she didn't know whether to laugh or cry.

I know I'm living in the wrong century, but I can't see why all this isn't obvious. A son has moved out of education, is no longer dependent, no longer needs financial support, the money should start to move the other way.

stroodes

Was waiting for someone else to bite first but not happening. If you were on over 50,000 a year why do you not own or partially own your own home?

Poppie68

stroodes wrote: »

Was waiting for someone else to bite first but not happening. If you were on over 50,000 a year why do you not own or partially own your own home?

True!!!

2 things amaze me
1: That he seems willing to ask his child to move out, just to maximize benefits.
2: Someone who was capable of earning £50,000 therefore must of been in a responsible job (im guessing), surely would be on the ball with regards to finances and would know they are in reciept of DLA.
I think this maybe a windup....but then again i guess there are people out there like this!!!