What is child support meant to cover?

Gigglepig

It is true that NRPs need to contribute to two households - but kids come first, before nights out or holidays.

It should not be such a big problem, as long as the NRP does not take on responsibility for a new family? If the NRP is single they can rent a room and have contact for example at grandparents?

Some NRPs seem not to have thought carefully about their financial and time commitment to their existing child(ren) before taking on responsibility for additional own/step child(ren) with a new partner.

fannyanna

Gigglepig wrote: »

It is true that NRPs need to contribute to two households - but kids come first, before nights out or holidays.

It should not be such a big problem, as long as the NRP does not take on responsibility for a new family? If the NRP is single they can rent a room and have contact for example at grandparents?

Some NRPs seem not to have thought carefully about their financial and time commitment to their existing child(ren) before taking on responsibility for additional own/step child(ren) with a new partner.

I better tell my Husband we should stop trying for a baby then.

NewKittenHelp

Gigglepig wrote: »

It is true that NRPs need to contribute to two households - but kids come first, before nights out or holidays.

It should not be such a big problem, as long as the NRP does not take on responsibility for a new family? If the NRP is single they can rent a room and have contact for example at grandparents?

Some NRPs seem not to have thought carefully about their financial and time commitment to their existing child(ren) before taking on responsibility for additional own/step child(ren) with a new partner.

But the RP can have a 'new' family?

lazer

Gigglepig wrote: »

It is true that NRPs need to contribute to two households - but kids come first, before nights out or holidays.

It should not be such a big problem, as long as the NRP does not take on responsibility for a new family? If the NRP is single they can rent a room and have contact for example at grandparents?

Some NRPs seem not to have thought carefully about their financial and time commitment to their existing child(ren) before taking on responsibility for additional own/step child(ren) with a new partner.

IMO every NRP should be entitled to be able to one at least a one bedroom household to allow them to have a good relationship with their children, they are entitled to have overnights with their children

Gavin83

Gigglepig wrote: »

It is true that NRPs need to contribute to two households - but kids come first, before nights out or holidays.

It should not be such a big problem, as long as the NRP does not take on responsibility for a new family? If the NRP is single they can rent a room and have contact for example at grandparents?

Some NRPs seem not to have thought carefully about their financial and time commitment to their existing child(ren) before taking on responsibility for additional own/step child(ren) with a new partner.

It comes across like your suggesting the NRP should live on peanuts (including having an inadequate house) and not start a new relationship or family!

Regular contact with the NRP in their own property is far more important than owning the latest pair of trainers.

I think it depends on the RP situation as well. If the RP is living in a large house and taking a number of holidays a year while bleeding the NRP dry I think the situation needs to be revised.

Should NRP financially support their own children? Of course. However you have to be reasonable. As far as I see it childrens needs should come first but the NRP shouldn't suffer in order to provide their child with unnecessary items.

GobbledyGook

Neither parent should have a new family if it means they cannot support the children they already have imo. It really annoys me when people go on about their 'right' to have a child with their new partner - what about the right of the child/ren you've already got?!

(apologies for the ranty tone - it's something that particularly annoys me at the moment due to someone I know).

madvixen

Gavin83 wrote: »

I think it depends on the RP situation as well. If the RP is living in a large house and taking a number of holidays a year while bleeding the NRP dry I think the situation needs to be revised.

I completely agree with this.

ms_london

I'm 32 - my dad left my mum when she was pregnant and never paid a penny... and he wonders why now I'm not thrilled at meeting him or why he doesn't get a "Fathers Day" card... Doh!

Yes, I am a bit bitter about it! I feel for all of you who are struggling xx

jen007

My son's NRP pays 100 a month in CSA and I use this to part pay for utilities.. prob about £20 of it. £25 to food costs. £14 goes on son's swimming lessons. He gets £10 a month, £5 of which I encourage him to put into his credit union... he can then use this to treat himself. The rest goes to clothes, shoes, replacing of lost school items (like this week, he's lost his penny blacks and gym shorts)

NRP doesn't buy anything for our son (that I know about) and expects me to send clothes to him at the weekend.

Bluemeanie_2

Gigglepig wrote: »

It is true that NRPs need to contribute to two households - but kids come first, before nights out or holidays.

It should not be such a big problem, as long as the NRP does not take on responsibility for a new family? If the NRP is single they can rent a room and have contact for example at grandparents?

Some NRPs seem not to have thought carefully about their financial and time commitment to their existing child(ren) before taking on responsibility for additional own/step child(ren) with a new partner.

I'm not talking about nights out or holidays, I'm talking about running a whole other household.

I find it outright ridiclous that you say NRP's should just rent a room instead of living in a house and providing a bedroom etc for their children to stay and see them at Grandparents.

Firstly that may not be possible and secondly why should they? They are entitled to live where they wish, as long as they are providing for their kids.

You are of course entitled to your opinion that "kids come first", but there are people that disagree with you and they are also entitled to do this.