Who wears the financial trousers in your family?

Former_MSE_Debs

Poll started 18 Sept 2012

Which of the following is closest to your family set-up when it comes to the financial battle of the genders?

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Did you vote? Why did you pick that option? Are you surprised at the results so far? Have your say below. To see the results from last time, click this

torbrex

Oh dear, a bit quick off the mark Debs, last weeks poll is still showing.

ETA
That's better, poll now showing

skylight

So why does it not apply if you are in a same sex relationship? So you don't want to know if one person over another takes more financial responsibility in a household, you want to know specifically men over women (and vice versa).

PasturesNew

It's me... always me .... but then there's only me..... I do everything, every time, everything, every decision, all the work, all the sorting out, all the organising.... me. Me, me, me.

LittleMissAspie

The results are going to be skewed by the demography of MSE. Firstly people who aren't interested in finances aren't going to be reading this. Secondly this site seems to attract more women than men. So a lot of the responses are going to be from women who organise their household's finances, either with or without their men's help. Those will be the two most popular answers.

I organise all our finances, bills and money planning. I've always been very good at this and I feel panicky if I'm not on top of it. My boyfriend isn't overly interested in finances, I mean if he wants something he'll buy it without considering whether it's a good use of money. He doesn't look at his balance, it's just lucky that he's always been quite well paid so he doesn't run out of money. He fully admits that if it wasn't for me, he would have no savings.

We have achieved a lot money-wise, we saved up a 25% deposit for our first house and are now on course to pay off the mortgage in under 10 years. All our bills are as low as possible. I am paying into a good pension scheme and he is about to do the same when he starts his new job. And I have to say, all of that is down to me

MSE_Martin

skylight wrote: »

So why does it not apply if you are in a same sex relationship? So you don't want to know if one person over another takes more financial responsibility in a household, you want to know specifically men over women (and vice versa).

The question is about "the battle of the genders". In a lesbian and gay relationship that doesn't apply. We tried to think of a way of doing it for same sex couples but couldn't. Though we didnt want them to feel excluded, so hence put the option in, rather than ignoring the issue

MSE_Martin

LittleMissAspie wrote: »

The results are going to be skewed by the demography of MSE. Firstly people who aren't interested in finances aren't going to be reading this. Secondly this site seems to attract more women than men. So a lot of the responses are going to be from women who organise their household's finances, either with or without their men's help. Those will be the two most popular answers.

I organise all our finances, bills and money planning. I've always been very good at this and I feel panicky if I'm not on top of it. My boyfriend isn't overly interested in finances, I mean if he wants something he'll buy it without considering whether it's a good use of money. He doesn't look at his balance, it's just lucky that he's always been quite well paid so he doesn't run out of money. He fully admits that if it wasn't for me, he would have no savings.

We have achieved a lot money-wise, we saved up a 25% deposit for our first house and are now on course to pay off the mortgage in under 10 years. All our bills are as low as possible. I am paying into a good pension scheme and he is about to do the same when he starts his new job. And I have to say, all of that is down to me

The site doesn't attract more women than men, its pretty even. Though i suspect as initial voters come a lot from my facebook page which is 80% women, the early vote may reflect that

Grimbal

MSE_Martin wrote: »

Though i suspect as initial voters come a lot from my facebook page which is 80% women

I wonder if that reflects the proportion of men/women on facebook itself, or that Martin attracts a largely female following

pollypenny

I used to see to all the finances, but when we were really hard up (Thatcher -days, 15% interest, kids in uni, no grant) I was having to say 'No' to Oh as if I was his mum and him a little kid.

From then on, we've sat down twice a month and done it together. From a spendthrift, he's now sooo careful, nervous about the pensions.

System

Hubby does but that doesnt mean i dont tell him how i feel if i think he is making the wrong decision. At the end of the day, if he ignores my advice and screws up.... its down to him to get himself out of the hole he's dug.

tanith

I do most of the online choices when it comes to financial stuff such as choosing utility companies and insurances etc , but show hubby what I'm doing so he can object or otherwise, he always agrees with my choices.. he sorts out his own ISA and bank account.