34.9% ? ? ?

kenshaz

Guess you did not hear what you wanted,it is easy to give bad advice ,why not go have a wonderful time ,is that what you wanted.

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kenshaz wrote: »

Guess you did not hear what you wanted,it is easy to give bad advice ,why not go have a wonderful time ,is that what you wanted.

Agreed, go to the wedding, get yourself in to serious debt, ruin your life, but have a nice time in Aus, you know it makes sense.:rolleyes:

comicmankev

continualdiamond wrote: »

not worthy of replying anymore, will leave this forum

I think your missing the point completely here, you seem as though you want someone to come on and tell you to go for it, and make you feel better.

The fact of the matter is that although most of the early comments on this thread were a bit harsh and straight to the point, they are true.

And to show similarity to your situation, my brother is getting married in January. He is the only family I have got, and has lived in Australia for the past 8 years. They are going to get married in Thailand so that people from both sides of the globe can get there.

Unfortunately, as I've told him, I can't go. January is a long time away, but I know from my current financial situation that I am not going to be able to afford it.

I had my 'lightbulb moment' a few years ago, and since then have learnt, like most do, that the one thing you can't do is take on more debt. Just realise that no matter how much you really, really, really WANT to go, you don't NEED to go. You'll probably feel bad about it for a long time, but you'll see the pictures and you'll be thinking about them, which is the main thing. And as soon as your in a better financial situation, you'll be able to see them a lot more than you do now, which will hopefully mean more to them than just seeing then on a day (when they have a lot of other people to support them too)!

xgingerx

Look, this forum is supposed to be unbiased and give advice, its not to be judgemental or condem or condone.

Is there another option other than borrowing money ???


Only an idea but would your family not be prepared to help u out financially with the flights ??? If your parents / other family really want you to be there and you explained you are struggling to afford it I am sure that they would all chipped in a few bob for you to be there, even if its not all of it I am sure anything would help, after all what are familys for

SpenderAholic

I don't have anything further to contribute in terms of managing your finances (although I think there have been several suggestions that could work), but I just wanted to say I understand how desperate you must be to get back to Australia. I know what it's like to live across the other side of the world from your family, and knowing I was going to miss such a milestone would send me a bit bonkers So don't be too disheartened, or think that everyone thinks you're crazy for wanting to go because I know where you're coming from! Just try to think things through as clearly as possible, which under the circumstances is difficult of course. And if you do decide to go, shop around as much as possible on the flight. Try Bestflights.com.au (they do worldwide departures) http://www.bestflights.com.au/cgi-bin/210_a_au/flights?maindetails=5019. And there's another great forum for frequent flyers who may be able to advise on how to get the best deal (Flyertalk.com).

I hope that helps in some way and good luck. I hope you get to spend some time with your family

continualdiamond

You're right, i didn't hear what i wanted to hear.....biased comments on my fiancical situation and how i spend my money, which were all totally wrong.

I found the considering going comment rude, that just because i was thinking about it, mean't i was a spender......far from it

Everyone missed the point. I was seeking advice about the 34.9% and if i was right to say no to using it and if i had any other options.

I didn't want to be treated like a child and told 'no' and told how much of an idiot i am.

Anyway closed topic

RayWolfe

Hope you never ask for further advice, because if your mind is already made up it's a bit pointless.
Nobody was being rude, unkind, thoughtless, harsh, judgemental or any other negative word ... just realistic.
Sorry if I've offended, sorry that you can't always have your own way, sorry that life is such !!!!! sometimes. But it is and if we had all said yes, do it, you would have ultimately been sorry and we would not have been helpful to you.
Good luck
Ray

kenshaz

Perhaps it is not you who are the spender ,but your partner.Please be realistic,whilst I understand your emotional needs and feelings of home sickness,some-one needs to take control of the budget ,large expenditure ,such as long haul flights are not helpful.

tom188

I thought it worthwhile to look at the contradicting statements made by the OP so have reposted them.

In a bit of a panic. When combining our debts together it totals £20,850.

I desperately wanna go to the wedding but at the same time is it worth getting into more debt.....

I straight away told him where not using it as we'll never get that balance cleared.

I found the considering going comment rude, that just because i was thinking about it, mean't i was a spender......far from it

Everyone missed the point. I was seeking advice about the 34.9% and if i was right to say no to using it and if i had any other options.

You're right, i didn't hear what i wanted to hear.....biased comments on my fiancical situation and how i spend my money, which were all totally wrong.

I dont think that being told it is a bad idea to spend £2k on flights when you are £20k in debt and your other half is out of work is biased, do you? What were you expecting people to say go away and forget about it, just forget about it and wait for someone else to pick up the pieces...

kenshaz

To be fair he has been reinstated.