Feeling Frumpy - money-saving new me advice

teedy23

well done VIK, I dont agree with you on the smock tops cos I luvvum but you could be right. It,s all about attitude and confidence in the end though is,nt it. If you have no self-esteem you wont want to dive in and go all glam and glitz, starting with small changes must be the way to go. I constantly hear that when you reach a certain age you shouldnt have long hair... how rediculous, or you shouldnt wear certain types of clothes.... sometimes I must agree on that, but by and large I think people should do what they like as long as it doesnt frighten the horses. Keep it up kid your doing a great job

davidspd

I treated myself to a Colour Me Beautiful consultation for my 40th and it was well worth it. I was stuck in a rut of wearing black but since I have moved to more earthy tones I have actually started getting compliments :eek: BTW I came out as Warm+Clear.

Another thing which has helped me was to look at http://www.mystylediary.net/Default.aspx It allows you to search by age group, and although a lot of it is not in the UK, you can get ideas about what looks good. I wish they would allow you to search by size as well .

Gill

belfastgirl23

Can anyone recommend where you might get v necked tops/tshirts that don't make you look like a hooker? I'm trying to move away from polo necks but I keep finding that v neck tops that are anyway long (ie that don't show your tummy if you reach upwards) are also very low cut. I seem to spend my whole life pulling them back to cover my cleavage to decency level then pulling them forward to cover my tummy. And they're always too big around the shoulders in to the bargain! I know I know that you shouldn't be afraid to show a little but in my office it is just not done at all.

I know I know I should be wearing shirts really but it's even harder to get one of them that fits. While I'm at it, anyone know where you can get a fitted shirt that will make the most of a reasonable waistline and proportional boobs and yet will fit over womanly hips!

ailuro2

M&S do great fitted shirts in all colours for work that are stretchy but very smart too. Hardly need ironed. I like their long sleeved Vee neck Tees too.
I know what you mean about the tee shirts being low cut- I hate showing any cleavage as I work with all men and prefer them to talk to me,not the boobies:o

vik6525

Tesco do really nice v neck t shirts that arent too low cut, and new look always always have some really nice fitted shirts in the sale. I bought one there last week for a fiver!

Justie

belfastgirl - H&M do good v neck tops and they tend to be a little longer in the body. Tesco do basic t shirts (including 3/4 length sleeves) that are good but sometimes a little short. Best thing to do if you're unsure about tops showing too much cleavage is to pop a vest top underneath, makes for a more polished look too.

I hate shirts, I have a wide back and shoulders (even though I'm a size 10)and find that shirts make me look boxy so I stick to knitwear and tshirts and they look just as smart. If you have a good waist then a couple of wrap cardigans (again H&M are cheap) are a good buy as you can wear them with everything from a dress to a vest top.

belfastgirl23

Thank you all, alas we don't have H&M in Belfast yet though I do make a point of going there when I'm in London. New one opening later in the year I think though! Good idea about wearing 2 tops, might even be a way of dealing with the belly showing thing too if I could get some longish vest tops. I always wondered why on earth people bought them, guess you've enlightened me. I will try new look and tesco for sure. I've tried the M&S shirts but they don't fit both top and hips unfortunately. As for dresses, can you hear the hollow laugh, I've given up on them totally.

I did just buy a sewing machine and am about to experiment when I can figure out how to thread the damned thing I think realistically this is the only way to get clothes to fit properly.

You may finally help me to become an appropriately dressed woman for my age. Many thanks!

vik6525

Ladies! There seem to be loads of you who've given up on dresses... Listen to aunty vik now (lol)... Go and try a wrap dress! PLEASE! If you think you're a 'funny' shape then theyre perfect, cause you make the waist fit yourself... you can pull the waist as tight or as loose as you want, so you can make it fit your boobs, and then make it fit your waist too iykwim?
Go on... give it a try... A black one can take you from day to night, theyre versatile, dressy, casual...

alyth

I was looking at them in Tescos tonight as well, it was a lovely black one and only £20 - might have to go and have another look tomorrow then, but don't they make your bottom half look bigger???

vik6525

Heck no! they skim! and make your waste look tootsy tiny, and flatten your tummy! theyre the dogs!!