Ex Chucking My Stuff Out

each_uisge

I had to leave my partner in August due to domestic abuse issues.
I'm currently staying with friends in a small house with no space for anything other than what I left with.
My ex sent me a text today telling me that I had to move all of my things out by the end of the week otherwise he would just chuck it out on the street.
It really is the last thing I need right now. It took me all my willpower and strength to walk, I'd put up with it for so long. I really cannot get any time off of work due to staffing issues, otherwise I'd be round there tomorrow to clear my things out.
Do I have any legal rights at all?

themull1

Can you not go with some friends after work?

Fire_Fox

Rented storage is not as expensive as you think. He cannot get rid of your stuff after communicating by text, but presumably you don't have time to see a solicitor by Friday either?

fluffnutter

This could be a blessing. Once you've moved all your things, there really is no reason to ever see this guy again. Why does this need to be in work time? Can you get a friend to help?

Quite frankly, I'd be round there shifting my stuff so that I could start to draw a line under things. Even if you have legal rights to keep your things there, or at least prevent him throwing them into the street, you're still left with all your possessions being at the house of someone who abused you. Why would you want this? Get your stuff pronto or leave it there forever.

CL

AFAIK if you jointly own the property, then he cannot throw your stuff out, but if your stuff is on his property, then he can.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Has it occurred to anyone that he's doing this to get you there on your own?

dottygirl

I left my husband and moved into a refuge. Sadly he kept all our "good stuff". I learnt for my peace of mind to let the stuff go. Four years ago I had nothing now I cant move in my home lol. Charity shops are amazing! Good luck. Please dont go there on your own. You can get a police officer to go with you if you feel you would be in danger.

barbiedoll

Go round (with a friend, DON'T go alone) and just get anything that means something to you. Photos, jewellery, any important documents, (birth certificates, driving license, passport, copies of bank statements etc etc) as many clothes as you can fit into a rucksack or holdall, and anything else that will squeeze into a small box.

Your friends have been good enough to give you a temporary home, I'm sure they won't mind you storing a few things in a box under the bed.

Let everything else go. Your safety is much more important than any stuff, it can all be replaced sooner or later.

each_uisge

just a quick thanks for all your replies, I'll be back online later on to reply properly. Just didn't want people to think I post and run

Hiddenidenity

When I left to a refuge I took only what me and the kids where stood in. He did keep terxting threatning to throw things out and I had to collect by such a time. I never did, i realised my childrens safety was better than the things I'd left. It wasnt easy at the time and it took along time to build things back up.

Although from a mutual friend he still has my things in his house over 18 months later ... It seems he did want me to go alone and it wasnt my things that where the problem it was the fact I'd left and he'd realised I ment it.

Dont go alone if you do go, if you have no one willing to go with youa police officer will come with you.

Well done on getting out the situation x

each_uisge

I must be dense! It hadn't occurred to me that he could be using it as a ruse to get me round to the house, so thanks to those who pointed it out.

I realise that it is only stuff that can be replaced. I more or less took with me what I needed/wanted when I left in August. I'd been meaning to have a clear out for ages, so in a roundabout way he's done the job for me ;-)

Fortunately I've got good friends - my friend has offered me use of her garage (yes a whole empty garage!) if I need to store stuff in. She's also going to come round with me when I go to get my possessions so I'm not on my own.

Onwards and upwards, my only regret was that I didn't leave him sooner. It's the best thing I've ever done for myself

Thank you again to those of you who have taken the time to reply :beer: