Separation and Benefits

PippaGirl_2

No I'm not confused. I stated to the OP, she could apply for interrim maintenance pending divorce, that is what she is entitled to when separated. The rest was how courts deal with divorce. No confusion.

seven-day-weekend

PippaGirl wrote: »

Because courts look at previous history, if she historically has not worked and is close to retirement the court would see that she would need supporting financially. They would not leave one party well off and the other surviving on benefits usually they would not see that as fair. Otherwise people would be staying in abusive or unhappy marriages and one party could walk off with everything. She has supported his working life by caring for family and home throughout a long marriage so would be awarded 50% of his pensions to equalise them in all likelihood plus financial support plus share of capital or property.


Mazza, yes it is the same for psychological/emotional abuse, thankfully under the law they are seen as just as severe. Broken bones and bruises heal far easier than emotional scars and PTSD

Actually they have been married ten years and up until two years ago, she has always worked! They have no children together.

Dunroamin

Fortunately, spousal support is very unusual these days.

PippaGirl_2

Not my experience or others I know, but it is less likely to be indefinite and more likely to be a fixed 5 years

mazza111

PippaGirl wrote: »

Mazza, yes it is the same for psychological/emotional abuse, thankfully under the law they are seen as just as severe. Broken bones and bruises heal far easier than emotional scars and PTSD

Thnx for that hon, it certainly changed and better days since I left my x And I agree with you about the broken bones and bruises healing faster And with physical violence you can tell it's happening. With emotional you can't always tell until you have that light bulb moment. Can't believe about 13 years ago I was a mouse lol.

PippaGirl_2

4 years on and I have now been diagnosed with PTSD due to the abuse and am about to enter specific post abuse therapy and CBT to help deal with the negative thinking that comes about with the psychological abuse. I guess I was with him 19 years so its a lot to overcome. I'm just shocked that the deep depression that came over me the second I left him (for good) as I expected to feel better. I swapped the constant fear for constant depression and anxiety and sometimes I think I coped better with the fear. Yes, I think organisations are changing and realising the seriousness of emotional and psychological abuse but friends/aquaintences and colleagues don't. Oh, and the church doesn't either

seven-day-weekend

Thanks for all the advice. She has had her IUC, where she told the truth and produced details of the land owned abroad. They asked her if she knew her husband had denied owning land when he made the original claim, she told them he had applied by telephone and that the only input she had was to provide her NI number. So she did not know he had not declared it.

As regards the benefits, it turns out she has debts and is being helped with these by CAP, who will also help her with her Benefits.

I must repeat, because some people seem to think that there is domestic violence involved, that I have not mentioned domestic violence and AFAIK there has been none throughout the marriage.

seven-day-weekend

Just to update, she has now claimed JSA and will have the rent and CT paid.

I believe he can claim Pension Credit for himself.

Thanks all for your advice.