Children in restaurants

lilmisskitkat

Our eldest is now 10 and usually has an adult's meal, when she was younger she did have meals from the children's menu as she liked the chicken nuggets/fish fingers types of meals she didn't often get at home.

DS (4) isn't overly keen on 'children's food' as he's always eaten anything and everything (BLW - cannot recommend highly enough) the same as us. So now he will have something from the children's menu IF it's either a roast dinner/cottage pie/pasta dish or we ask for a smaller portion of a main menu dish. Or one of us orders a main course and a couple of side dishes and shares with him.

DD2 isn't a big eater (reflux) so she just tends to have a little bit off everyone's plate.

Good on you for letting your daughter choose what she wanted, it's important for children to be allowed to make decisions for themselves (when appropriate). And at 9 she is definitely old enough to choose what she wants to eat in a resturant. Mine always order their own food and we're often complimented on their manners

K xx

lostinrates

The opinion of people who need the reassurance of collective sniping is not terribly important.

I hope your child enjoyed her meal.

I can understand people being slightly put out by a fussy child who won't weat anything available, a child who behaves badly or has poor manners etc, but a child who has a starter as a main meal? How odd. Fwiw, i have been known to do the same.


Did your child enjoy her lunch and have a nice time?

raven83

Rochdale_Guy wrote: »

And some parents are just way too pretty!

Are they??? I can't say I noticed

hazyjo

jellyhead wrote: »

Choosing the fried food off a kids menu doesn't necessarily mean the child eats that sort of thing for every meal at home.

I don't think people are trying to outdo each other here, they are simply explaining that their child really likes something that isn't on the child menu.

As an adult I like to be able to choose what I fancy when we go out to eat, so why shouldn't children be able to have something they really fancy?

True... so maybe they were taking it as a personal insult that the newbie in the group might think that... you just don't know with some people. Maybe they thought she was looking down on them and they were getting defensive about it.

OP, had your daughter looked at the children's menu, or discarded it before looking? Maybe they thought you were implying the kids' menu was full of 'junk food' or not good enough, or that your daughter had been taught not to order from it...

(Not saying I think that - I agree with you lol! Some people just have the biggest chips on their shoulders!)

Jx

Lotus-eater

RuthnJasper wrote: »

What I find to be the worst aspect is the fact that this was GobbledyGook's first time out with this group - and they are ALREADY sniping about her on Facebook! Not the sort of people I'd be wanting to hang around with.

I'd missed that bit about Facebook gossiping.

It was only risotto, hardly even worth mentioning, weird.

sassyblue

What a bunch of weird people gobbledegook. Can't believe you found them b*tching about it on FB!

I think you should go back and click to 'like' their comments. and if anything's ever said say that one of them alerted you to the FB page. Not true of course but it's what they deserve...

raven83

*Louise* wrote: »

I was surprised to read that they said you had pandered to your DD...but I was more shocked that all this has been b*tched about on Facebook, that is just horrible!

I would be ditching tem all pretty quickly...and I would tell them to their faces I had read all their backstabbing comments :mad:

This is another reason why facebook can be evil!!!

What grown "adult" though !!!!!es and back stabs over a social networking site, hardly very mature is it? And they have the cheek to criticize you?:mad:

I would **** them off, find some nicer more mature people to hang about with

jellyhead

hazyjo wrote: »

True... so maybe they were taking it as a personal insult that the newbie in the group might think that... you just don't know with some people. Maybe they thought she was looking down on them and they were getting defensive about it.

OP, had your daughter looked at the children's menu, or discarded it before looking? Maybe they thought you were implying the kids' menu was full of 'junk food' or not good enough, or that your daughter had been taught not to order from it...

(Not saying I think that - I agree with you lol! Some people just have the biggest chips on their shoulders!)

Jx

Yes, they might have taken it the wrong way, or maybe they are just set in their ways and get upset when anything new and unusual happens

Some mums don't seem to be able to imagine their child actually getting older and having opinions of their own. I still remember one really wierd conversation when mums of baby boys were saying they hope their boys never get a girlfriend because they can't bear the thought of them not being mummy's boy anymore :eek:

delain

I would be delighted if my twins chose something from the adult menu rather than the fish fingers and chips that plague kids menus!

DD1 (10) would choose from the adult menu, she doesn't much like chips, and I'm sure squeak (2) will be doing it at 3, she eats all sorts.

Maybe they're jealous because their kids are picky :rotfl:

GobbledyGook

Daughter wasn't demanding in any way. She had looked at the children's menu then the waiter put a board with the day's specials on the table and the risotto was the starter on it. She asked "Mum, am I allowed the risotto from that menu or have I to pick from this menu?" and from her tone there's no way that it suggested a tantrum or anything if I'd insisted on the children's menu.

There was no snobbishness or anything on my part as my other two eat from the children's menu. Also the risotto and her drink worked our cheaper than the children's menu as it was a 3 course job and she just shared a wee bit of my starter (she's not keen on puddings so didn't have one).

No issues with the bill as everyone was paying for their own, something they always do when they eat out together (I think it's partly because two Mum's start on the wine whereas one Mum works in the afternoon so doesn't have wine and leaves quite sharpish after the meal).

I wasn't Facebook stalking btw, they had said I should get FB and I just explained that I'm hidden and have been since my divorce so they told me to add them. It was just co-incidence that I found this particular person first, purely because she has a really easy to remember surname!

Anyway one of the other non-FB, quite nice Mum's rang me this morning to see if I was going tomorrow and I explained that I wasn't. She said that particular bunch are always like that. We've arranged a playdate for ours later in the week instead.