Getting Parental Responsibility

KatieDog_2

Hello,

Im a long time lurker but was wondering if any of you had any knowledge on this...

I am a parent of two children, one born in 2000 and one in 2007.

The one born in 2007 is my husbands and he has shared parental responsibility.

The one born in 2000 I have complete parental responsibility for. I have been with my husband since 2002 and he is identical with both children. What can I do to 'share' parental resp. with him?

There is no way the children would be split if , god forbid, i died but, like you do with your finances, I want everything water tight.

Is there anything I can do?

Thanks,
Kate

NewKittenHelp

Adoption? Is the child's biological father around?

KatieDog_2

Yes the biological father is around.....he is welcome anytime but visits possibly about 4 times a year and doesnt pay any maintenance. He didnt have the best upbring and seems unable to create emotional bonds. He once said that he knows my husband does a better job than he ever could. I am aware this now sounds like a jeremy kyle story! But its not like that. We are all friends but we dont have structure to contact as he struggles to keep to it and my child hasnt much interest in contact.

Adoption seems too 'overpowering' as the bond is already there its just in case of death!

The biological father wouldnt have a problem with adoption BTW

InsideInsurance

Instructions on how to do it is available:

http://www.advicenow.org.uk/living-together/children/how-to-get-parental-responsibility-for-your-partners-children-html,257,FP.html

Spendless

Am not sure how she did it, but am aware it can be done as my friend did this with her 2 oldest children born 2000 and 2002. She has a 3rd child born 2006 with her now husband and had sole responsibilty for the eldest 2 as she was not married to their Dad. She has told me that having sole responsibity actually made it easier for her to get her husband PR as their biological Dad didn't already ahve it.

rachbc

Its easy for your hubby to get PR - basically you download and complete a form for step parent PR, take it to local court to get signed/ witnesss and return to the Family Court and once its registered with them he has it. My hubby did this for my son - his own dad refused PR when offered it