Chief bridesmaid dilemma

Poppy9

I'm just surprised you didn't ask your sisters initially to be bridesmaids!

Dumping your BF now is harsh but does the Chief Bridesmaid really have to organise a hen do, can you do it yourself?

caeler

Have you seen 'Bridesmaids'?!

minerva_windsong

Thanks for all the comments everyone. To answer a few questions:

Both sisters are married. The reason why I didn't ask them initially is that I didn't know if they'd find it weird being their baby sister's bridesmaid, as there is quite a big age gap between me and them, and I didn't want to make them feel uncomfortable. I was still going to ask them to do something in the wedding though, like do a reading or be witnesses - they weren't just going to get left out completely!

I could organise the hen myself but my friend really wants to do it, and I know that she can and will do a sterling job, but I don't want to cause her any unnecessary stress if by some chance the hen do coincides with her having a depressive period. She's also not a great delegator so I don't think I could persuade her to take a step back from it if it did, and again I don't want to come across as thinking she can't do it.

I'm supposed to see her today so I think if the wedding comes up in the course of the conversation I will mention I'm also asking my sisters so if she does want any help with hen do/other bridesmaid stuff she only has to ask. Then when the time comes for the hen do and the wedding I'll probably split the tasks between all the bridesmaids.