Getting married in september but he will still be living in the USA

midnight_express

mariecooper wrote: »

Thank you for your input. I assumed as much for the single part and marriage wise. He isn't in a position to give us any money. It was shocking to work out that he only gets £300 a month for working 8-9 hours a day. He lives with his parents so he has to pay living, ect there too.

the more i look into going over there with him, the more worried I'm becoming. I am diabetic, and have a number of other conditions which I'm not even sure america would take on through insurance as its a pre existing condition.

My parents collectively earn over the amount needed as proclaimed by the government to support us, and they have agree'd which is wonderful, but at the same time, he doesn't want to be a waste of space and not work and provide. Its all such a mess, all we want to do is be together as a family

Thank you again for your advice

I don't think his salary would even cover your medical bills.

Pricivius

It looks as though him coming over here is not going to be possible until you can sponsor him as his spouse...

The other option of you moving over there is likely to be pretty tricky as well. My sister married an American and it took many years to go through the process. During this time, she couldn't leave the US without special permission, friends and family were interrogated to ensure it was a genuine relationship (despite them having two kids by this point!) and they had to prepare sworn statements to evidence their union. I think she finally got her green card after 6 years. I'm not sure how the US would handle your kids going over there as well...

Also, make sure you have the correct visa for the US for the wedding - many countries have a fiancee visa for people going somewhere to get married, including the US. Do not travel on the wrong visa (e.g. a tourist visa) for your wedding as you could be refused entry and then you'll struggle to get back in...

kingfisherblue

Post 13 - he works full time.

Post 23 (and others) - he works part time.

He works long hours, but doesn't receive anywhere near minimum wages, as his mother says they have enough full time staff - yet she needs him to work 8-9 hours a day - also post 23.

Date today? 6th August - two or three weeks into the summer holidays.

Hmmmmmm...........................

kingfisherblue

mariecooper wrote: »

He's working part time, but unfortunately he works for a company that his mother is the main manager for. Not that, that has anything to do with it, but jobs are pretty rare where he lives, so a job with the company your mum and step dad already work for is a bonus. But he works so many hours for little pay. After tax he gets around $600, Recently I looked up the conversion rate on that amount and it equals about £384.42 a month in British pounds sterling. He's asked for a full time position but they keep fobbing him off, saying that because of the amount of full time staff they already employ and his minimal skill set, they can not even begin to think about offering him a full time position at the moment.

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