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Jinx wrote: »

If you get benefits then you should get maintenance sorted through the CSA. I would also mention to them about the 'hidden' money, I think they can investigate where there is a lifestyle well in excess of that funded by salary etc.

its difficult because he has been very clever by giving it to his sis who has it in her bank so it can never be traced back to him this was the main reason i decided to separate from him i cant believe someone could do that to the family be so deceitful especially when there have been times when we have been struggling financally and all the time he has had a secret stash, when i found out about it and confronted him he said it was cos he wanted to put it away and its for the family now its his since we separated , i told him i dont want a penny of it he can shove it but what annoys me is me and kids have to wait every week for him to give us some money and hes constantly going on he has ne money when kids ask for something but i no thats a lie one day they will find out the truth x

Mojisola

If it's a big, obvious sum, isn't there a trail between his account and his sister's?

There are potential problems with handing over money like this. His sister could decide not to give the money back to him - if it's in her name, it's her money. If she went through a divorce, the money would be taken into account as if it was hers. If she ever needs to claim benefits, now or for some years after she gives the money back to him, she could find her claims refused.

NickyBat

He's not been that clever. Where did it originally come from?

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NickyBat wrote: »

He's not been that clever. Where did it originally come from?

it came from an insurance policy when his older sis died when they paid it into his bank he told me he had to split it with his sis but i dont think they would expect him to give what ever his sis was entitled to they would have surely sent her a cq he did transfer some to her bank but told me that was her half which i never believed x

whenwillitend

Mojisola wrote: »

If it's a big, obvious sum, isn't there a trail between his account and his sister's?

There are potential problems with handing over money like this. His sister could decide not to give the money back to him - if it's in her name, it's her money. If she went through a divorce, the money would be taken into account as if it was hers. If she ever needs to claim benefits, now or for some years after she gives the money back to him, she could find her claims refused.

yes he transfered money into her bank fr his account but told me this was half hers from an insurance company that paid out when there older sis died but i dont think a insurance company would pay out to 1 person and then expect them to dish it out surely they would send each person the money x his sis is not married and earns a very good wage apparently he told me its in a isa which i dont believe either he has never told me the total amount because he was a bankrupt he has his own bank account to build his credit rating up but i have seen the amount he transfered to her bank he is such a liar how could someone do that to there family am due to see a solicter next week cos i want a divorce xx

Tish_P

I'm sure the CSA have dealt with far cleverer means of hiding money than putting it in a sister's bank account! It sounds like you're just dealing with the shock of him leaving - which is understandable but not helpful. Calm down, take it one step at a time and you'll be fine.

Mojisola

If there's a trail, your solicitor should be able to get it included in any settlement.

whenwillitend

Tish_P wrote: »

I'm sure the CSA have dealt with far cleverer means of hiding money than putting it in a sister's bank account! It sounds like you're just dealing with the shock of him leaving - which is understandable but not helpful. Calm down, take it one step at a time and you'll be fine.

no im def not in shock it took a long time for me to tell him i dont want to be with him anymore he then made a decision to leave and is currently staying with the sis ,the shock is i cant beleive the person i loved and thought i knew could do that to me and the kids i would never be able to trust him and all the lies he has told if you have no trust in a relationship you have nothing x

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Mojisola wrote: »

If there's a trail, your solicitor should be able to get it included in any settlement.

yes am seeing a solicitor next week to find out where i stand etc so will let you no how i get on, its quite scary really but i have 2 children that are my first priority x