Child maintenance payments once child leaves college

Mojisola

_welshy_ wrote: »

And the agreement stated when daughter finished college which in my eyes is end of August as it is not yet known whether she will go back in September (depending on A level results)

skibadee wrote: »

What date did your daughter actually finish college OP ?

The date she finished college is all-important. If the agreement said "pay until she finishes college", then he's complying with your agreement if he stopped paying on the date she left college.

If you had wanted CM until the date she started uni or the end of the school holidays or the date CB stopped, that's what your agreement should have said.

kevin137

It is arguable from both sides, did she go to a leaving party for college, arranged by the college, many do have these events.

And technically, you may find that when you officially leave is exactly that.

I know it is not right, as through the CSA it is different, but that is not technically what your agreement is...!

I would wipe my mouth of it, and tell him, i will continue to support OUR daughter through Uni, what you choose to do s down to you, but your daughter WILL have an opinion of him if he chooses not to help out.

But again by the same token, you don't HAVE to support any child through Uni, there are more than enough ways that are financially beneficial to all, than being supported by parents who have no obligation.

_welshy_

Looking back it was never set in stone or in writing when the maintenance would stop. Thanks for all your help but I will fight for her money and I know my daughter will make it known what she thinks of him.

Daughter sees father regularly and there has never been an issue of him being an absent father, he has always paid for her. He lowered the payment 3 years ago due to his new partner having twins, fine by me but don't just do it and not tell me. Whereas he has always paid, he has never given any extra - again fine by me as Daughter knows that whenever she asked for something off him he would always say I already pay your mother! And yes I know I should be grateful as many fathers don't pay just wanted to put the story across. Rant over

_welshy_

kevin137 wrote: »

It is arguable from both sides, did she go to a leaving party for college, arranged by the college, many do have these events.

And technically, you may find that when you officially leave is exactly that.

I know it is not right, as through the CSA it is different, but that is not technically what your agreement is...!

I would wipe my mouth of it, and tell him, i will continue to support OUR daughter through Uni, what you choose to do s down to you, but your daughter WILL have an opinion of him if he chooses not to help out.

But again by the same token, you don't HAVE to support any child through Uni, there are more than enough ways that are financially beneficial to all, than being supported by parents who have no obligation.

Thank you Kevin, she will get through Uni even if she has a debt hanging over, as unfortunately I am not in a position to pay for her, but as you say there are plenty of ways
I wish I had gone through the CSA in the beginning but hindsight is a wonderful thing (If I could find my divorce papers I would check them but can't find them)

Marisco

Have you suggested he gives the money direct to your daughter? Maybe he would be willing to do this rather than give it to you. If he won't, then TBH I'd leave it, it's just not worth the hassle.

skibadee

_welshy_ wrote: »

Looking back it was never set in stone or in writing when the maintenance would stop. This coud be where the 'problem lies then, as if your daughters course finished in say, May, the last payment date for CB is 31st May. Thanks for all your help but I will fight for her money and I know my daughter will make it known what she thinks of him.

Daughter sees father regularly and there has never been an issue of him being an absent father, he has always paid for her. He's not all bad then !!!!!




He lowered the payment 3 years ago due to his new partner having twins, fine by me but don't just do it and not tell me. Whereas he has always paid, he has never given any extra - again fine by me as Daughter knows that whenever she asked for something off him he would always say I already pay your mother! And yes I know I should be grateful as many fathers don't pay just wanted to put the story across. Rant over

To be honest I'd grin and bear it not worth opening a CSA case and if nothing was ever legaly set in stone as to the 'when daughter finishes college' part then very difficult to inforce through court.