Car share is it fair to ask for a small contribution?

Mojisola

Gin_and_Milk wrote: »

That might be a bit insensitive as he's registered disabled which is why he is unable to drive, lol

Depends what his disability is. I've got disabled friends who drive.

Mojisola

HappyMJ wrote: »

You are paying them anyway.

And when you spread those costs between the miles that are driven, you get a true picture of how much it costs to go on any particular journey.

If he only hands over half of the fuel costs, he's actually getting his journey to work cheaper than Gin!

Gin_and_Milk

He's registered blind. It's not going to happen.

LEJC

Ive been on both sides of thi over the years...when I didnt drive I was really grateful of the lift to and from work door to door and a quick and efficient journey...so was more than happy to pay a contribution towards the wear and tear on the car of my workmate.

I wasnt at all offended to be asked if I would pay a contribution in fact I ended up setting up a standing order on a monthly basis to the driver

Its a little different if the person gets a concessionary travel pass as they may feel that they value their solo time on the transport home rather than having to spend it with a workmate...but I guess you could lightly bring it into a conversation that you'll be living near eachother and if they would like to consider a carshare arrangement in the future then you would be happy to offer a lift on shared expenses...at worst for you he can say no and youre no worse off than you are now....but at least if you offer outright then the ball is in his court to respond.

Personally I would think that £10 per week is acceptable

HappyMJ

zappahey wrote: »

Do you have a reference for that?

The ABI....

Gin_and_Milk

It never occurred to me that he might want some space too, that's a good point. I used to enjoy that before I could drive to work (like you I've been on both sides). For a while I too used to be able to get a lift from a colleague and it saved me loads of time and hassle (and I used to hate it in winter). I offered my colleague money for fuel and he declined, but I would have been embarrassed not to offer.

eschaton

Gin_and_Milk wrote: »

He's registered blind. It's not going to happen.

Well he shouldn't see you when you drive past him at the bus stop

At the end of the day, I don't see £10 as too much. The fuel probably costs you £12 per week, then you have all the running costs and depreciation of the car. You are also giving up the fact that you like the time to yourself.

If it was me, I would prefer not to give the lift as what happens if you want to go somewhere on your way home sometimes etc..?

If it turns out that he expects to get a lift then maybe he needs to manage his expectations better.

vikingaero

I've known people to get offended if people ask for a contribution but these are normally the ME! ME! ME! type people that think the world revolves around them and "as you are going that way anyway..." These type of people have no concept of how much a car costs to actually run.

I like to think my group of friends are different. Whoever drives to an event gets fuel paid for by everyone else. So the driver travels fuel-free and only incurs the cost of wear and tear and depreciation.

Gin_and_Milk

I know it's sounds patronising, but as a non driver he won't appreciate that cars aren't cheap to run and he won't know what's it's like to stand at the petrol pump watching every single penny, making sure you don't overspend!

I do think he will be of the 'well you're going that way so you may as well take me for free' mentality. In fact this cropped up a few years ago at a works Christmas do, whereby both of us were passengers. I told him I was going to offer the driver some money for fuel and parking and asked him if he wanted to chip in. He said no and got really funny about it, saying the driver didn't have pick him up and drop him off (all the more reason to offer some money surely?).

I was worried that by hoping for some money towards fuel I would be seen to be tight fisted given I'll probably be going right past his flat. Thankfully people on here seem to think a contribution towards fuel is fair :-)

eschaton

Gin_and_Milk wrote: »

I know it's sounds patronising, but as a non driver he won't appreciate that cars aren't cheap to run and he won't know what's it's like to stand at the petrol pump watching every single penny, making sure you don't overspend!

I do think he will be of the 'well you're going that way so you may as well take me for free' mentality. In fact this cropped up a few years ago at a works Christmas do, whereby both of us were passengers. I told him I was going to offer the driver some money for fuel and parking and asked him if he wanted to chip in. He said no and got really funny about it, saying the driver didn't have pick him up and drop him off (all the more reason to offer some money surely?).

I was worried that by hoping for some money towards fuel I would be seen to be tight fisted given I'll probably be going right past his flat. Thankfully people on here seem to think a contribution towards fuel is fair :-)

The more you tell us about him, the more I think you should tell him to GTF if he does ask/suggest getting a lift.