Second proposal

dragoneye454

Hi bit of a different question.

I called off our wedding after OH made a huge mistake of judgement (it wasn't cheating) and he broke my trust completely.

We stayed together and he has tried ever since to make it right and still wants to get married and I know he is the one I want to be with.

Would it be stupid to propose again to put a wedding back on? (If that makes sense). I was thinking of getting him an engagement ring that would double as his wedding ring and proposing, but I'm not sure if this sounds stupid and whether I should just tell him we can put the wedding back on and leave it at that

wannabemrs

I think that sounds like a brilliant idea, and much more romantic than just telling him the wedding is on again.

People always ask how you got engaged, and while that shouldn't matter, it is nice to have something lovely to tell them

MrsDrink

Aww do it It'll be a nice way to let him know you've forgiven him.

faithless

Sounds like a lovely idea to me!


Ps wannabemrs, I seem to be following you around threads!

JimmyTheWig

Only do it if that trust has been rebuilt.
But if so, then I'd say definitely do it.

I don't understand the "engagement ring that would double as his wedding ring" idea. Surely it's either one or the other? If you don't want to pay out for two rings then propose without one. Or use a "Haribo" ring or something!

spoonymoose

Aww that's a lovely idea Also that way he knows that you've forgiven him (like Mrs D said)

What I think dragoneye means with regards to using the ring as the wedding ring is that men's rings are usually plain solid bands and so can be used as an engagement ring as well as a wedding rings.

A typical (tho not always) woman's engagement ring is usually a small band with a diamond in the centre, whereas the wedding ring would be wider.

stir_crazy

Glad that you have managed to rebuild your trust.

I think it would be nicer to propose to your partner, it would mean more to you both.

JimmyTheWig

spoonymoose wrote: »

What I think dragoneye means with regards to using the ring as the wedding ring is that men's rings are usually plain solid bands and so can be used as an engagement ring as well as a wedding rings.

A typical (tho not always) woman's engagement ring is usually a small band with a diamond in the centre, whereas the wedding ring would be wider.

I understand that. Just don't understand the idea of using the same one as both. What's he going to do, take it off when he gets to the venue?
(Maybe it's a common thing and I'm just missing the point.)

Labsettings

That sounds lovely, it's showing that you're ready to trust him again and leave the past in the past (if appropriate). Good luck!

MrsDrink

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

I understand that. Just don't understand the idea of using the same one as both. What's he going to do, take it off when he gets to the venue?
(Maybe it's a common thing and I'm just missing the point.)

They way I see it - she buys his wedding ring and uses this as a prop to demonstrate she's ready to marry him now. But he won't actually wear it until the big day.

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wannabemrs wrote: »

I think that sounds like a brilliant idea, and much more romantic than just telling him the wedding is on again.

People always ask how you got engaged, and while that shouldn't matter, it is nice to have something lovely to tell them

Why not - it sounds lovely! I got my hubby-to-be an engagement ring for a valentines gift 3 years ago, a nice signet ring with a tiny stone, and he wears it on his middle finger as it's a size too big (oops). I think it's lovely & he never takes it off.