Could you work with a 'new' ex?

DVardysShadow

mildred1978 wrote: »

No such thing.

In the context which dizzyrascal used the concept. of course there is such a thing.

Just because the law does not specify or define it, does not mean it does not exist. The law does not define elephants either, as far as I am aware.

The only thing you can say is that the law will not recognise claims based on the 'common law wife' argument. But there are arguments which can be made on the basis of being conjugal partner and others based on being business partner

ostrichnomore_2

Hi
thanks for all the advice. I'm still thinking about whether to continue in the business longer term or not, I don't want to rush into a decision on that. Obviously one factor is whether I can bring myself to work with him, so I returned part-time a week ago and I'm seeing how it goes.

It isn't easy and there have been a couple of bumps in the road already. Particularly as there are a couple of big projects that have been delayed by my absence, and he's had a few digs at me about that, but I'm ignoring it as I don't feel the slightest bit responsible/guilty for that. The worst bit is seeing him laughing and joking around and being 'normal' at work as if nothing has happened. But of course, for him, what's happened isn't bad so he doesn't feel the same things I do. It's just hard to see. When someone is laughing at one of his little jokes I want to snap 'he's not the nice guy you all think he is! Don't be nice to him!' but have to bite my tongue.

I think it'll just take time to adjust, if I do decide to stay on. I'm in two minds on it now, initially I 100% thought I would leave, but in some ways I did like being back at work. As he has pointed out (when I asked for some reasons why on earth I would want to stay) it might be hard to go back to being an employee, instead of a business owner with all the flexibility that brings with regards to time off, doing things how I want to do them etc. I always found it hard to be a yes-man employee!

I've also told him that something needs to be done to increase my income and he's agreed in theory, I just now need to work about what I want and propose it.

So I still don't really know what I'm doing but it's early days yet. I'm no longer ruling out staying with the business as a possibility.

Any more advice on how to deal with the emotional side of working with ex would be appreciated.