17 thrown out help

neverdespairgirl

If her step-Dad has a new girlfriend, where is the mother? What about the biological father, are either of those options for her?

Poor girl, what a horrible position to be in.

Cate1976

Kerry: Big thumbs up to you for doing the right thing and taking your daughter's friend in. I agree with what everyone else has said about finding out what accommodation is available in your area. Although it might be hassle and take time, you should be able to get CB and CTC if you take her in until she's able to move out on her own.

Council/college/ss should be able to help you find out more about all the options for where your daughter's friend will live long term.

I really do hope that she has somewhere to live soon. For the moment, while she's trying to deal with the trauma of being kicked out, the best place is somewhere she's got a shoulder to cry on.

Several years ago, my sister's friend got kicked out of home and she ended up at my parents for the weekend but my Dad went and spoke to the father of the girl. Luckily, things were resolved such that my sister's friend was able to go back home.

kerry13238

hiya thanks for all your help. i know the step dad to wave at dont really know him the mum has been off at college or uni for as long as i have known the girl it seems like a excuss to me. i know the mum recently moved back into the house with the step dad not as a couple but then the mother started seeing the bloke over the road and now lives with him she says she doesnt want her.

the girl is very upset she said goodbye to her younger siblings earlier and they said we know and wouldnt give her a hug and it broke her heart but they are only little and prob dont realise and think its a sleep over.

i called the council earlier to find out what she needs to do but she didnt want them to know her name we are going tomorrow to see what they say maybe they can put her mind at rest.

i am going away this weekend but have managed to arrange to take her with me how can parents do this?

mikey_bach

Bless her.
She has a good chance of claiming I.S in her own name.
She is estranged and in full time education,
If awarded she can claim HB
I.S will ring the estranged parent, to check details and the parent will have to give the CHB up.

Good luck at the council, but also consider ringing an claiming I.S it is definately an option...

Cate1976

How old are her siblings? Is there any way that contact can be arranged so they can stay in touch and maybe see each other? Her siblings will possibly start asking questions before too long depending on how little they are. So glad you've managed to arrange for your daughter's friend to go away with you at the weekend.

kerry13238

morning just woke the girls up to take them she seems a bit more willing to talk to the council today i will look into i.s for her i will let her stay here as long as i can. the council said on the phone yesterday they will call the parent to find out what the reason is for making her homeless so im assuming thats is what you mean mikey she was really scared of them calling him she seems scared of him not sure if its cause he is doing something wrong benefit wise.

i know his ex moved back in and she is not supposed to and he is working and not telling them so it seems its a whole can of worms and she feels guilty for opening it but she is a child and they have put her in this position she has even had her phone taken away as far as they know she is on the streets.

she is clueless about the world and is a imature 17 im really worries where she will end up if i dont take her in she is scared of living with strangers.

hi cate i know her siblings are of school age but not sure how old hopefully will get some help for her today from someone trained at this im scared of making promises i cant keep to her she is worries about leaving the area and not seeing her siblings and friends.

linni

Just wanted to say that it's wonderful that you have taken her in. Poor girl must be in a right state. I really feel for her. Hopefully you will have some more news on what's going on, later today. Best of luck with it.

von

As has been said previously she can claim Income Support if she in full time education and estranged from her parents and anyone else acting in place of her parents. They will want to know why she can't live with her step-father and may ask why she can't live with her biological mother and father (sorry-I'm not sure from your post whether "the mum" you refer to is her mother - in my job it could be anyone i.e. it could be her mother or the step-father's partner who she calls Mum).