living and paying maintenance....

annie1975_2

FBaby wrote: »

In that case, the pwc should be made liable to show evidence how maintenance is being spent on the children and the children only (since benefits will already pay all essentials).

Give them vouchers instead of wads of cash.

FBaby

clearingout wrote: »

the problem is demanding accountability shifts the balance of power and control the other way, don't you think? I also think it assumes that every PWC is somehow out for the money, doesn't do the best by their children and is somehow stupid with money and unable to budget. By the same token, every NRP is some kind of hard working saint who is a) having to live with the systematic abuse of their children by their ex and b) is being fleeced by their ex financially.

I don't see maintenance as a mean of control either way. It's money to contribute towards raising children and should be considered as such only. If you pay a cleaner every week to do a job, don't you think it should give you the right to know how she spends her time, whether you think she is doing the job right or not. It wouldn't have to be a requirement for all pwc, but an option for an nrp paying large amount and not seeing it benefiting his children.

clearingout wrote: »

Fbaby - you don't receive any support from tax credits. Your post above seems to suggets that you consider every PWC is either on benefits or only earning part-time so tax credits pay all the childcare or pick up the bill for their children generally. My own experience is that whilst there is often a need to fall back on benefits/tax credits as a PWC when a relationship breaksdown, most people get back on their feet and work and get on with their lives and live a mix of work and tax credits and maintenance and generally trying to make ends meet, just as most two parent households do. You can't be the only PWC earning a decent wage, can you?!

I don't know any pwc who earns such a salary she isn't entitled to some tax credits with children young enough to still be in nursery. I did when mine were still in nursery, and even though I was promoted during that time and my salary has gone up, I suspect I would still be entitled to some of it now - if I was single again, with my boy still in breakfast/afterschool clubs and a baby in nursery full-time, which is certainly not going to happen

FacelessGaz

Marisco wrote: »

Yes, my oh was told more or less the same thing, only it was rent not mortgage. (this was mid 90's, so it seems nowt's changed!:() When he said he could possibly be homeless, due to not being able to afford to pay the rent, they more or less said "tough, not our problem"!!!

Yeah I am having to do that too and have. Still don't know where I stand with Local Council but have given them all the details they need. Made it clear in no uncertain terms the CSA are making me homeless. And the CSA don't care.