All churned up after seeing ex

tryingtocutback

I saw my ex husband in passing the other day - he didnt see me (or at least I dont think he did).

I felt physically sick and was shaking. We split amicably but I was broken hearted. The thing is this was 10 years ago - I was really shocked at how I felt seeing him like that.

Since then I can't get it out of my head - I feel really down and depressed about it.

I don't want us to get back together or anything like that - I had just got it in my head that he had probably moved away or something because I hadn't seen him around in all those years. Now I feel on edge that I might bump into him again.

Not sure about the reason for my post really - I guess I just needed to say it! I can't believe Im not over it after 10 years!

Tropez

I suppose it depends where you are in life at the moment. If you're single or not in a happy relationship seeing him will bring back those feelings of being broken-hearted. Presumably your past relationship had many good points given that you felt broken-hearted and so you may be experiencing a malaise based on what might have been. It doesn't mean that you're not over it but perhaps just makes you feel that whatever you had previously is missing from your life right now.

Hofmeister

Doesn't mean your not over it, just bought back some old feelings.

tryingtocutback

I think you hit the nail on the head tropez!

tea_lover

Just because it shook you up a bit doesn't mean you're not over it. I saw something on facebook from my exH (friend of a friend thing) a few months ago and it made me feel decidedly odd. Despite the fact it was 10 years ago and I'm very happy with my OH (and have been for 7 yrs). That was just a comment on the internet, if I actually saw him IRL it would definitely shock me.

I think it's perfectly natural - you weren't expecting to see him and it threw you a bit. (((hugs)))

tryingtocutback

Thanks everyone, I am currently single and life hasn't exactly turned out how I had hoped (yet) so that probably doesn't help.

I dont know his current situation and nor do I want to but I do hope he is happy and I definitely have no hard feelings towards him or what happened - although it went wrong, we did have a lot of good times together.

Thanks for listening - glad I am normal after all!
xxx