Preparedness for when

D&DD

Morning all


aw JK I was really touched by your post too often the fathers *biological or otherwise* are forgotten when break ups happen


GQ slug protection has been deployed...nematoded the whole garden front and back yesterday,in the rain so perfect for them.I swear by those little blighters and much easier than daily stalking and slug pellets!!


Seigemode we've had a bit of a run recently losing rellies so even my parents have now made a will (They resisted til now) I did mine when we lost my parents in law as we had a bit of trouble with someone so mine cost me a shedload of pennies but anything I own is stitched up tight for my boys.I've had to bypass my poor hubbie due to family issues with his brother so although he has access to any cash he needs the boys are directly to inherit.


I had to do trusts and gawd knows what else so my brother is also my executor as its complicated..


My passwords for banking etc are stored safely where DS1 knows and as for looking after themselves..well they've all been taught but...*whispers* they are men

GreyQueen

jk0 wrote: »

Oh, you don't need to unpeel the boxing GQ. If there isn't an inspection hole, you only need to carefully drill a couple of 7mm holes holding the drill bit in your hand, and pump the stuff in. Then fill holes with polyfiller.

I understand your reluctance to do this, but if the smells are affecting your health, how about mentioning my advice to the housing officer, and see if they give you permission?

I guess I could look at doing that. But the other party flatly denies smoking pot in their home and the HO seems to think they're telling the truth and those of us neighbours (not just me btw) who can smell it must be imagining it.

My bathroom was totally refurbished about 18 months ago, so I don't know if they'd allow me to do stuff to it, but I guess it's worth a try.

Off to w*rk now, laters GQ x.

Si_Clist

GreyQueen wrote: »

But the other party flatly denies smoking pot in their home and the HO seems to think they're telling the truth ...

Sheer curiosity prompts me to ask ...

Under what section of a council or HA tenancy agreement might the smoking of weed in itself concern the landlord? I'm struggling to see what happens next if the HO knocks on the door of an otherwise model tenant and forms the opinion himself that the smell from within isn't incense :cool:

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I have to confess to actually liking children, babies are dear little things but it's more fun when they can talk and ask questions, more to the point I've found most kids like me, because perhaps I can revert very easily to childhood and join in at their level!!! It may not be dignified but it's always a lot of fun!!!

Si_Clist

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

... perhaps I can revert very easily to childhood and join in at their level!!! It may not be dignified but it's always a lot of fun!!!

Absolutely. I've always thought that some of us never actually grown up. We just learn how to behave in public.

paidinchickens

jk0 wrote: »

I used to hate children. They annoyed me by making a noise outside my flat when I had a hard day at work. When I bought my present house, I asked the estate agent for a house on a busy road, so that there would not be noisy kids playing outside.

About 6 years ago, I started dating a single mother of a two year old little boy. Not having a dad, he was desperate for one, and I loved playing with him, reading him stories, cooking for them and taking him on outings with his mum.

We were together for two years. However, in the end I believe his mum came to resent how close we were. Finally, when I would not give her money, she dumped me, and it broke my heart not to see my little mate any more. I have made umpteen attempts to reconcile without success.

I still miss him, and took an Easter egg over to his granny yesterday.

In view of this, I have resolved never again to date a single mum. Not because I don't like children. I love them now. Just I could not do with the heartache when they are snatched away from me.

Life's a !!!!!, eh?

Such a heartwarming story, most estranged parents don't bother with their kids even when they are biologically theirs so to have someone who wants to see the child "that is not of their loins" warms ya cockles.

Not a child fan here even though we have four between us. I find summer, kids screaming and trampolines a particularly nerve wracking combination :rotfl:

PiC x:rotfl:

greenbee

I like some kids and not others. Much the same as with fully grown people really... I'm unlikely to have my own, and sometimes wonder whether I will regret it. However, as my mother pointed out, my niece and nephew appear to have taken over full ownership of me - it's not the same but I do get to spend plenty of time with small children. I'm usually exhausted after about 48 hours...

D&DD

I love kids although sadly a lot of the dreams I had for my lot have had to be drastically altered and worked around I would never be without them all


I'm always the one who ends up babysitting at family gatherings etc and its nice because there have been things I haven't been able to do with my own that I can do with other people's lol for example I have all boys and my niece loves having her hair done when I see her,my lot are all crew cuts!!


Si the tenancy agreement is a source of ridicule here..no one obeys them sadly..


When I wrote to ask permission for my greenhouse I got written permission as you should do but was told it must not be a permanent addition and not able to have electric put in there as the property has to be left as it was first rented and would cost the council to have removed..fair enough...I can see 4 conservatories from my back window attached to houses and 3 of these are 'jerrybuilt'...


With regards to dogs etc we must only have 1 cat or dog and written permission,unless we had them when we moved here in the regeneration as we did with our cats and yes I got written permission for Rosie. Others have 3 dogs,12 cats etc etc all since moving,with no permission most times.


Regards to drugs we must not use the property for prostitution,drug use or criminal activity (that's a direct quote from mine) as this could lead to the HA revoking your tenancy and I laugh every time I read it for reasons already outlined in some of my posts!!! The council just don't bother as our estate would be half empty.
Not worth the paper its written on...

VJsmum

Have really enjoyed the latest round of posts - thanks everyone

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

Fair bedamned, we've worked bl**dy hard to get the few things we do have, we've known hard times as much as any of you, we've made sensible choices and NOT had the holidays,clothes,hairdoos, make up, new furniture/capets gadgets, not had all the electrical add ons that you can have, we live a quiet and sensible lifestyle, we grow most of our own fruit and veg and I save us a small fortune by doing all I can that is home made, and so does my lovely hardworking down to earth hubby!!!We've had our disruptions and had to go abroad for work at very short notice and when we did eventually get the job here it was after the third round of redundancies and we were moved within 3 weeks, no schools arranged, no say in having to move either, the company demanded committment from my OH and put our house on the market with a chain of estate agents before I was told, SO I do know about disruptions and difficulties, and If anyone ever called me middle class I'd deck them, I'm working class and perishing proud of it - in fact I'm one down from that as all my ancestors were very hard working Peasants!!! Don't preach to the converted my friend, we're there ahead of you and have been there for a considerable time!!!

I'm with you - my inlaws have all the gadgets going and are forever on holiday. But they have zero money put by. BiL said to us recently "it's alright for you, you are on a completely different income level to us. We don't have any savings .." :mad: We like our holidays for sure and we work hard for them, but we have no sky, no gym memberships, no 50' tellys (they have 3!), we don't have the latest phones, cameras, etc - they have all of these. We have an extremely old car and our house isn't anything to write home about (which doesn't make sense, but you know what I mean ). we budget and we save and we are frugal. We are on a higher income level than them, but we spend much less - hence we have surplus. It's not difficult is it?

I grew up in a very poor, very working class household. I know what it is like to go without and it scares me to think it might happen again. My job as a lecturer apparently now makes me middle class - I don't get that! I still work and still have "working class ethics".

GreyQueen wrote: »

Afternoon all.


I honestly don't know what the proverbial troopers and fishwives do for bad language these days, when virtually everyone is using the f-word as a substitute for a noun, verb, adjective and just as general punctuation. It annoys me a lot.

That made me :rotfl:. I like a well placed swear word - mostly for comedy effect, mostly at the OH. But if used all the time, it loses it's value.

siegemode wrote: »

Has anyone else thought of how they would cope without their OH ? What provisions have you made should that situation arise ? It seems to worry OH more than me, but I'm more of an optimist than him.

I could cope without him, I choose not to. I can't think of anyone else i'd rather be married to (unless Benedict Cumberbatch shows an interest ), so I can't visualise that - I can visualise being alone though. I might have to learn to use a drill is all. So I'd rather be with him than without him - but i'd cope without him. We do a lot of stuff independent of each other anyway. I think of my MiL who was widowed at 57, which isn't much older than I am now. She has lived alone ever since, but hasn't really ever formed any friendships in that time - she is now 82. Some of that is our fault, taking her on holiday etc so she never bothered - and now she is rather lonely as she can't do a lot of the holiday things and doen'st have friends her own age. It is sad, I think, and I am determined not to be like that.

With regards to children - out of four of us who went through school toghether, 2 of us have 5 children between us (I have 2) and the other two have none. One through choice and one because circumstances didn't allow for it - a divorce and then a new partner who didn't want them. Each to their own, I say. Do I feel sorry for the 2 childless ones? Not the one who hasn't chosen to, but yes for the other who wanted to but didn't. My sister, who has three, says she wishes she hadn't wanted them.

My DD is due to leave home in September for University - and is going quite a long way away. One part of me is screaming "noooooo" the other is a bit relieved that I won't be such a dogsbody.

COOLTRIKERCHICK

the thought of not being with my OH...I don't want to think about.. I have allways told my hubby I got to go first, as I don't want to be left on my own... if he went first I told him I would kill him..lol


seriously, if anything happened to him, I would have to sell the smallholding, as there is no way I could cope...or I would have to totally change things.


BUT I should imagine.. my heart wouldn't be in the place then, as he wouldn't be here..


like now.. we are expecting our first litter of piglets... while he is in work to sort things out, he will be back soon..its the type of thing we want to experience together...


I now have some quails... and I was thinking, If SHTF and there was a total shut down, and everthing goes awol... the quail might be the bird to have instead of chickens etc... as they are small. you can keep them indoors, they don't eat as much as chickens etc... plus people cant see you got them iyswim..


oooppps got to go... half hourly pig check due