make do and mend for tougher times

Pooky

When my hubby uses his scooter in the village one of our cats normally comes along for the walk.....people do stop and gawp at a 40 year old on a mobility scooter walking a cat.

I'm merrily cooking up everything from the freezer that seemed ok, few more bits needed to be binned and as we're off to a BBQ tomorrow I shall be taking anything that can be used there. New freezer will be here Monday - Have drawn extra out of savings to go and restock it.

smileyt_2

Pooky, what a drag for you! Would your insurance cover the spoiled food or is it not worth the hassle claiming for it?

Can I ask a question of you all? Do I seem immature to you? I found out yesterday that someone I thought was several years older than me is actually younger - this person is very calm and collected and together, and always beautifully turned out. It made me reflect on myself and I've come out of the comparison badly. I have none of the trappings of an adult in this society - no house (well, rented, for which I'm grateful), no car, don't drive, no career, no pension, I'm as unsophisticated as it's possible to be because I am always out with dogs or on my bike or whatever, and I'm not even adult-sized and still get patted on the head by random strangers and bouncers in pub doorways! I have to buy children's shoes (only good thing is lack of VAT). This other person is not nasty and materialistic, by the way - she's a lovely person. I just feel very gauche and immature and wonder if that's how I come across?

I guess the good thing is that I know my friends are my friends because they're friends .... no-one would ever hang around with me for what I could get them .....

Sorry. I think this is the PMS talking. I think I am going to go back to bed for a bit until I can pull myself up by the bootstraps.

fuddle

smileyt wrote: »

Can I ask a question of you all? Do I seem immature to you? I found out yesterday that someone I thought was several years older than me is actually younger - this person is very calm and collected and together, and always beautifully turned out. It made me reflect on myself and I've come out of the comparison badly. I have none of the trappings of an adult in this society - no house me neither(well, rented, for which I'm grateful), no car,me neither don't drive, can drive but don'tno career, me neither, not any moreno pension,me neither I'm as unsophisticated as it's possible to be because I am always out with dogs me tooor on my bike pull trolleyor whatever,


I just feel very gauche and immature and wonder if that's how I come across?

We compare smiley. I don't feel like those things make me immature or any less an adult in today's society...... don't forget, and as I know you know only too well, that society isn't quite driven by what people expect social norms to be is it? It's driven by marketing, advertiser, government wants or newspapers. It's all driven by money makers.

What makes a person isn't what they have, wear, drive, look like, height. You know this hun, I know you do One word, confidence. Sometimes we have it, some times it just dwindles. You posted in the right place Smiley, shake yer head, dust yourself off, have cuppa, dunk a biscuit and carry on with who you are. We love you :j

Popperwell

I am older but feel young at heart and I hate the situation I am in. Like you I rent, can drive but haven't for years and could not afford to, illness would probably mean work is out but under the new rules they'll probably say otherwise and if they do, it won't be much of a job.

I'm short in height but it doesn't worry me...

You are rich in that you have friends you realise like you for who you are and if what you do(though simple things)make you happy that's all that matters.

That is something you have over me...but I am fortunate that I have friends on here that talk to me and give me support.

Popperwell

fuddle wrote: »

We compare smiley. I don't feel like those things make me immature or any less an adult in today's society...... don't forget, and as I know you know only too well, that society isn't quite driven by what people expect social norms to be is it? It's driven by marketing, advertiser, government wants or newspapers. It's all driven by money makers.

What makes a person isn't what they have, wear, drive, look like, height. You know this hun, I know you do One word, confidence. Sometimes we have it, some times it just dwindles. You posted in the right place Smiley, shake yer head, dust yourself off, have cuppa, dunk a biscuit and carry on with who you are. We love you :j

What a fantastic post and response...wise words Fuddle and thank you...

bossymoo

smileyt wrote: »

Pooky, what a drag for you! Would your insurance cover the spoiled food or is it not worth the hassle claiming for it?

Can I ask a question of you all? Do I seem immature to you? I found out yesterday that someone I thought was several years older than me is actually younger - this person is very calm and collected and together, and always beautifully turned out. It made me reflect on myself and I've come out of the comparison badly. I have none of the trappings of an adult in this society - no house (well, rented, for which I'm grateful), no car, don't drive, no career, no pension, I'm as unsophisticated as it's possible to be because I am always out with dogs or on my bike or whatever, and I'm not even adult-sized and still get patted on the head by random strangers and bouncers in pub doorways! I have to buy children's shoes (only good thing is lack of VAT). This other person is not nasty and materialistic, by the way - she's a lovely person. I just feel very gauche and immature and wonder if that's how I come across?

I guess the good thing is that I know my friends are my friends because they're friends .... no-one would ever hang around with me for what I could get them .....

Sorry. I think this is the PMS talking. I think I am going to go back to bed for a bit until I can pull myself up by the bootstraps.

Do you know what, on the outside, I do have all those trappings. Yet I don't feel like a grown up at all. I have the house, car, career, children, pension, a will etc. and I'm as childish as you like...

:rotfl:

Possession

Smiley you don't come across as immature at all, far from it. and like Bossymoo I probably have those trappings you mention but don't feel like a grown-up at all half the time, especially when I'm here at my parents and my mum kind of takes over everything.

katieowl_2

Hey Smiley, I'm here today feeling a bit like the sorcerers apprentice but with cake (and washing up) I was 53 on Monday, and I'm listening to smooth 70's radio (and loving Disco lunchtime) in my head I am not really a jot different than I was in 1975, when I was 16. I find it really quite scary how little I've changed!

Yeah I do have a house and we have by necessity out here in the sticks, two cars - for the first time in 25 years, I probably do have some 'trappings' of a grown up, but not in my head Most of my trappings are second hand, even my best dinner plates came out of a skip. I've no pension, no huge nest egg, no career... don't like spending money on things like pubs and eating out, we don't go on holiday...I think the last time we went (loosely use the word holiday) anywhere we house sat for friends when the kids were about to head off to secondary school.

Your friend may seem all calm and collected, but she might be like a swan, serene on the surface but paddling like hell to stay there! :rotfl:

And what Fuddle said....we love you the way you are!!! :T

Kate

mardatha

Life isn't about "stuff" smiley. It's about love and compassion and spirituality and appreciating the beauty all around us in this world.

VJsmum

Popperwell wrote: »

That sounds lovely mardatha,
Hope you soon feel less spent...here it started off quite sunny though it did rain through the night...again...it's cloudy now...I'm sleeping and catching up but that smoke alarm is still bleeping and it's wrapped up/hidden and it still sounds as loud.

As I said I appreciate the idea is that they should be heard.

At least I have eaten already when I put the recycle bin out I toasted some muffins and put maramalade on them. I know one chime is much like another but the only enjoyable event connected to me was "Big Ben" chimbing at 8.12 this morning and them asking other people across the UK to join in some way. Even with a doorbell.

Some did but nothing was going on around here. And even the BBC only played approx 3-4 of the chimes...I knew it was happening but this morning was the first I knew it wa suppose to happen elsewhere...still feel much as kidcat doe

s about the Olympics but for those who enjoy it...fine and especially children who still have an annocence about them.

To some extent reminding us what the Oylmpic ideal was and should be...

whilst i understand that it seems a waste of money, the olympics have generated a lot of income in my industry, construction. and will continue to do so as a lot of the expertise is now going to Brazil to work on the next one!!