to have a band or not?

daisiegg

Scotsbride wrote: »

I love Ceileigh and like the idea of having a ceileigh at the reception as do a lot of the guests (haven't said to any that I'm thinking of it). However OH doesn't and doesn't do dancing! and I'm worried that people will try and force him to dance and he's really not comfortable with that. Whilst he happy with the idea of a band as long as he doesn't have to dance and it isn't to lound. So to have a celeigh dance or not?

We're having a ceilidh and I'm thrilled about it!

Neither of us are dancers AT ALL, but I introduced OH to a proper Scottish ceilidh at Christmas when we had a huge family one and he thought it was great. As I said, we both hate dancing (I am the one who flatly refuses to go anywhere near a dancefloor) but a ceilidh is just fun and isn't really like proper dancing (you don't have to do anything wiggly!!)

Everyone I've mentioned the ceilidh to (and that's basically everyone lol!) thinks it's an absolutely brilliant idea. People say they are much more likely to get up and do a ceilidh than get up and dance freestyle to a DJ. Personally having a ceilidh would be the only way I'll be dancing at my wedding...we're not even having a first dance, we hate dancing so much!

As someone else said, if your OH hates dancing so much that he won't entertain the thought of doing it whatever the type of music is, then it surely doesn't make a difference what type of band you have, so go with what you want! If it was a case that he had a preference of a different type of band that he might feel more comfortable with, that would be different of course.

Good luck! I'm super excited about our ceilidh and I hope your OH comes round to the idea!

Scotsbride

minerva_windsong wrote: »

I would love a ceilidh at our wedding, but my OH isn't very keen on them for various reasons including people feeling under pressure to get up and dance. I'm hoping that we might be able to compromise by getting a 'normal' band for part of the evening and then having an iPod disco - would something like that work for you guys?

_ Might Have to put it to OH although he doesn't do dancing full stop.

ennui wrote: »

I answered based on the poll question without reading the post - oops! If you really want a band, go for it. If it's just the ceilidh dances you want, though, a DJ can put on some appropriate tracks for part of the evening. That way if anyone's uncomfortable with it, it doesn't last all night, but those who enjoy ceilidh dances don't miss out. Or you could get a band that can do different styles of music.

_I might suggest the iPod thing as there isn't any one I've found that does both.

daisiegg wrote: »

We're having a ceilidh and I'm thrilled about it!

Neither of us are dancers AT ALL, but I introduced OH to a proper Scottish ceilidh at Christmas when we had a huge family one and he thought it was great. As I said, we both hate dancing (I am the one who flatly refuses to go anywhere near a dancefloor) but a ceilidh is just fun and isn't really like proper dancing (you don't have to do anything wiggly!!)

Everyone I've mentioned the ceilidh to (and that's basically everyone lol!) thinks it's an absolutely brilliant idea. People say they are much more likely to get up and do a ceilidh than get up and dance freestyle to a DJ. Personally having a ceilidh would be the only way I'll be dancing at my wedding...we're not even having a first dance, we hate dancing so much!

As someone else said, if your OH hates dancing so much that he won't entertain the thought of doing it whatever the type of music is, then it surely doesn't make a difference what type of band you have, so go with what you want! If it was a case that he had a preference of a different type of band that he might feel more comfortable with, that would be different of course._ have asked him he just says what ever. Even sugguested metallic and nine inched nails to get a response(he likes them) He said it would go down like a lead balloon with regards to family and he doesn't want that. but doesn't know what he wants which quite frankly is driving me nuts as he's yet to come up with something he does like!

Good luck! I'm super excited about our ceilidh and I hope your OH comes round to the idea!

_ He doesn't do dancing whatever the music. I'm just worried that people will put pressure on OH to dance. which will put him in a bad mood and I don't want that!

*miaomiao*

We're having our reception in a lovely old pub, so no dancefloor. Which we're really happy about. We'll still be able to bop around and are choosing our own music to be played on the sound system. Solved the problem of a first dance entirely! : )

gingerdab

Hi,
Having just a ceilidh band for a 4 hour reception would be challenging if not all your guests are familiar with the various dances.
The options you have would be.
Ceilidh band and disco package. Getting the best of both worlds and hopefully keeping your guests entertained.
A band that has a good variety of music and also does ceilidh dances.
With re to OH, might suggest he holds fort at the bar while the ceilidh is on as a good way to involve everyone is sometimes to get those on the floor to pick a partner at the tables.
I could give you some ceilidh bands to look at depending where you live in Scotland and also assist you with a dj if you went for that package as I run my own Mobile Disco, (if I am allowed to say that on here. oops )

mouthscradle

I agree with RainbowDrops. If it's a decision that will cause your OH to worry about the evening reception part of your day and will make him dread it a little, well there's no contest really. Neither of you should have any aspect of the day that you're dreading.

katie1812

We had quite a lot of talk about whether to have a band or a DJ. I was more for a DJ, the fiance ore for a band....

We have decided on a DJ. And that's not just me putting my foot down lol!! Basically we couldn't find a band that we liked. And I find that they do the same types of music... their playlist isn't very varied and they have so many breaks! And they are verrrrry expensive. So DJ won! Means we can pick the songs we want them to play and it can interest people of all ages

Marionette

LoveCake- can you please PM me the details of the ceilidh band? Going to see our first venue in 2 weeks and with our wedding date in February 2015, feel as though we need to get our skates on!
Thanks in advance