to have a band or not?

Scotsbride

I love Ceileigh and like the idea of having a ceileigh at the reception as do a lot of the guests (haven't said to any that I'm thinking of it). However OH doesn't and doesn't do dancing! and I'm worried that people will try and force him to dance and he's really not comfortable with that. Whilst he happy with the idea of a band as long as he doesn't have to dance and it isn't to lound. So to have a celeigh dance or not?

RainbowDrops

I think the important thing is to have something that you are both happy with.

If OH thinks he can avoid being dragged onto the dance floor, then go for the Ceileigh, but if he's really reluctant, maybe look for a band that might do a mixture of Ceileigh and more modern / traditional wedding party music.

johannalf88

Oh that's a tough one. I dont like to dance, and HATE it when people try and drag me on the dance floor. But on the other hand I would like everyone to have fun, and dancin is kind of expected at weddings!
We r having a blue brothers tribute, so if people want to dance they can, but it's not 'serious' dancing- gotta shake your tail feather! Even I can dance to that one! :rotfl:
With a c-dance thou, it is very much drag people up (from the one I went to) there really wasn't an option not to dance. But maybe consider talking to the band about how pushy they are. The one I went to was encouraging the guests to drag people up- I was not happy! :eek:

Scotsbride

Thanks for the advise

wanchai_2

I love ceili bands, go for it but ask them not to be too pushy about dragging people up xx

Scotsbride

johannalf88 wrote: »

Oh that's a tough one. I dont like to dance, and HATE it when people try and drag me on the dance floor. But on the other hand I would like everyone to have fun, and dancin is kind of expected at weddings!
We r having a blue brothers tribute, so if people want to dance they can, but it's not 'serious' dancing- gotta shake your tail feather! Even I can dance to that one! :rotfl:
With a c-dance thou, it is very much drag people up (from the one I went to) there really wasn't an option not to dance. But maybe consider talking to the band about how pushy they are. The one I went to was encouraging the guests to drag people up- I was not happy! :eek:

The ones I've been to some are and some aren't hence the question. The last one was up to you if you wanted to get up or sit one out and couples didn't have to be male female either.

lovecake

I agree with RainbowDrops! How about a band that does a bit of both? We are having a band that do a really wide range of pop/rock/indie/motown etc. but they also do a ceilidh set. They play all night and I think they do three different sets throughout the evening (they have an ipod for when they are on a short break in between sets) with the middle one being a short ceilidh set. It means that folk that like ceilidh dancing get a chance to do it, but for the rest of the evening there is a good mix of all kinds of other stuff Are you getting married in Scotland? I can PM you their details if you are - we have seen them live and they were fantastic!

Dekazer

Having lived in Scotland for many years I have many Scottish friends and have been to many Scottish weddings. The majority have had a ceilidh band..

Now I love ceilidh dancing, but my husband hates it. At every single ceilidh we've been to, there has been at least one (usually more) person who has nagged and nagged at my husband to join in. He's robust enough to laugh it off, but it can make him feel like a bit of a party pooper. I also have to find other people to partner up with when I want to join in.

All that's fine when you're a guest, but I can only imagine it would be a bit trying at your own wedding. Is there a compromise anywhere? Might he feel happier with a ceilidh if he'd had some more practise? Would he agree to do one dance with you at the beginning, and then to sit the rest out? Could you find a live band who don't play ceilidh stuff, but could rustle up a good Proclaimers cover to keep the Scots in the room happy? (The most rousing singalong at our wedding was to Sunshine on Leith )

Good luck finding something you'll both enjoy

wifeforlife

Whether you have a normal band or Ceilidh band, if your OH doesn't like dancing he won't dance with either. Safer going with what you want on this occasion and he can decide something else that he feels very strongly about

minerva_windsong

I would love a ceilidh at our wedding, but my OH isn't very keen on them for various reasons including people feeling under pressure to get up and dance. I'm hoping that we might be able to compromise by getting a 'normal' band for part of the evening and then having an iPod disco - would something like that work for you guys?

ennui

I answered based on the poll question without reading the post - oops! If you really want a band, go for it. If it's just the ceilidh dances you want, though, a DJ can put on some appropriate tracks for part of the evening. That way if anyone's uncomfortable with it, it doesn't last all night, but those who enjoy ceilidh dances don't miss out. Or you could get a band that can do different styles of music.