Facebook Request from a Child

gingin_2

You've got nothing to lose by mentioning it. I would mention it politely in passing and just say you thought it might be best to let her know and then change the subject to something else you might have in common so she doesn't feel its a personal attack.

podperson

Thanks, I think I will just and mention it in conversation with the women when I see her - browneyedbazzi that sounds like a good way to bring it up. The sister is probably just trying to get as many friends as possible but if I mention it to her then at least I'll know I've done what I can and it's up to them if they want to take it up with her. Slightly awkward conversation with someone I've probably not said more then half a dozen words at a time to before :rotfl:

marleyboy

As far as I know FB dont allow under 13's to register. When my Son was born we created an account for him, for friends\family to view his pics. FB got onto this and promptly deleted the account, we ended up setting him one as a fictional character.

Children will inevitably accept and add people as friends, whether or not they know who they are. If the FB mods get onto the account, they will promptly delete it. Bebo is more catered for the children.

GraceJamesMum

mwddrwg wrote: »

No one under 13 is allowed on Facebook :eek:

Kids do something called 'lie about their date of birth'!!! Not right, but it happens - when my son was in Year 6, the Headmaster had to do an assembly on how to act on Facebook and the like ... no cyber bullying, etc.

Many people seem to allow their kids to do it - I know of a child who had FB set up when she was in Y2 (7 years old :mad: )

However, it is up to the parent, so I definitely wouldn't go and tell the woman you know that it is wrong that the sister is on there. I would just point out that you have received a friend request and that you won't be accepting. My OH has a rule that he won't have anyone under 16 as a friend, even his own daughter.

My son has an account (he is 14), but I know his userID and password and make regular visits to see what he and his friends are up to - he is also very aware, from our discussions (and the headmaster's assembly!), that he must know the person properly in real life before he adds them. The only adults that he has as friends are people that either his dad or I know.

tyllwyd

I wouldn't worry about ignoring the request - you probably know people in common - maybe her sister is friends with people you are also friends with through the group, and you were suggested by facebook and she thought oh I know her so she clicked on you.

11 year olds are not supposed to be on facebook but truth is most of them are.

1886

There's alot of people on Facebook, infact I would say the vast majority, who just want to have as many "Friends" as possible. Hence the childs request

BitterAndTwisted

Deny. Deny. Deny.

I wouldn't bother mentioning it to the sister at all. It will avoid any dull and meaningless conversations with someone else you don't know. I often deny friend-requests from people I don't know personally and couldn't care less whether they are offended or not because they are not my friends.

With 500 Facebook friends already she obviously doesn't need any more, as she's already so very popular.

GobbledyGook

Rather than deny the request I would just ignore it - it stops the request from being sent again.

I don't have a problem with youngsters on Facebook in general, if they are well protected. My daughter has a profile to keep in touch with her cousins and friends who have moved abroad. However I have the password, she doesn't, it runs from my email account so I can see any requests and the likes and she's well versed on who she is and isn't allowed to add. She also knows that the first time she accepted or added someone without my approval or who she didn't know the whole thing would be deleted forever. I prefer it to MSN for her personally.

However I'm always left quite shocked by the free reign some children have over their profiles. One Mum I know doesn't check her daughter's profile at all and isn't friends with her child because she feels it would "violate her daughter's privacy". She even commented that her daughter would never "allow" the set up I have with mine. I just don't understand the logic in letting children be in charge then being shocked when it goes pear shaped.

I'm forever getting friends of my eldest trying to add me, but i just ignore the request. It's only ever been commented on once and I just said that I hardly used it (true) and that my friends language is often rather blue and I'm never sure on all the friends of friends malarky so prefer not to add children to my profile (a slight stretch of the truth).

Yorkie1

My goddaughter sent a friends request to me when she was about 12 or 13.

I declined it despite our close connection because I knew that occasionally people post strong language on my wall (even if I don't!) and I knew that she would have access to that.

I also didn't want her being privy to whatever I posted; I didn't want to have to moderate what I wrote in case she saw.