Help! Urgent Birthday Gift for MIL Needed

dizsiebubba

Thanks for your replies!

L33na & Fluffnutter – Not harsh…I feel that way myself but it is still his mum so he still cares despite the fact that she is not a nice person. It’s always left to me because he works all hours god sends! She is 50 – found a copy of her marriage cert online and her DOB is 1962 L
Gigglepig – He is her only, there are some brothers who are much older than him & have a different mum and know MIL, only one whose (ex)wife knew her well but sadly she passed away last year so a helpful suggestion but nobody…he is all she has really.
Londonsurrey – Great minds think alike as I am 99% certain it will be a watch. It’s a gamble as I don’t know her taste but I thought one a bit dressy so it would work for special occasions or everyday if she likes it glam!
Belfastgirl 23 – She moaned last time I sent flowers because they die… (nice, eh?)
Desparado99 – Love the baloon thing it made me laugh! She is not English though so she thinks a little differently to us and it probably wouldn’t bother her?
Pimento - She only shops in Polish & Hungarian shops!

Think I’m gonna go for a watch – he gave me a £150-£200 budget and I have found one for £115 that is nice.

sweetcheekz

something pretty from swarovski, its what we got my MIL, would like something like that myself :cool:

dizsiebubba

sweetcheekz wrote: »

something pretty from swarovski, its what we got my MIL, would like something like that myself :cool:

So would I and so would my mum but apparently she doesn't like anything sparkly...I nearly told my OH 'tough'

Tish_P

Buy a bunch of flowers... for someone else who you actually like. If she's not your mum, and not your friend, it's not your problem.

dizsiebubba

Tish_P wrote: »

Buy a bunch of flowers... for someone else who you actually like. If she's not your mum, and not your friend, it's not your problem.

But she is my MIL and I love my OH so wouldn't want to upset him. He wants to get her a gift as it is his mum...

Tish_P

Then he should get her a gift himself!

Edited to add: saw your edits, hope she likes the watch. I still think he should pull his thumb out for his own mum though, given that he's had 50 years' notice that this occasion was coming up. At the very least he could have thought of something himself even if he still asked you to buy it.

Abbafan1972

Tish_P wrote: »

Then he should get her a gift himself!

I agree!

My OH has always got his own parents' present (when they were talking of course!) If he didn't bother getting anything then it's his problem. Just like I've always been responsible for getting my parents' presents. If I ask him what I should get for Mom and Dad he usually just says "I don't know, they're your parents".

That is what you should be saying to your OH!

dizsiebubba

He hasn't really had 50 years notice - he doesn't know her DOB becuase they have such a weird relationship (all her fault!) so he thought she might be 50 next year but only by finding an online marriage record did I find her DOB...and on top of that he is always at work... nobody grafts like my OH does...anybody who knows him says that!

The problem is not him asking me to do it...I don't have a problem with doing him favours, he is the love of my life and I would do anything for him, its what to get her! He doesn't know her well enough himself to know what to get her because she has always pushed him away. All she likes is booze which obviously we don't want to encourage! He had a horrendous childhood and IMO she is a wicked woman and a horrible mother and doesn't deserve a thing but deep down he still cares so he wants to get her something!

He is AMAZING with my parents and always knows what to get them - helps me out with ideas for my Dad (who is a pain to buy for!) all of the time.

If it was any other birthday I would have got the usual perfume, however as its a big one (and I spend £100 on my parents on a normal birthday) I thought it should be something more special.

fluffnutter

dizsiebubba wrote: »

He hasn't really had 50 years notice - he doesn't know her DOB becuase they have such a weird relationship (all her fault!) so he thought she might be 50 next year but only by finding an online marriage record did I find her DOB...and on top of that he is always at work... nobody grafts like my OH does...anybody who knows him says that!

The problem is not him asking me to do it...I don't have a problem with doing him favours, he is the love of my life and I would do anything for him, its what to get her! He doesn't know her well enough himself to know what to get her because she has always pushed him away. All she likes is booze which obviously we don't want to encourage! He had a horrendous childhood and IMO she is a wicked woman and a horrible mother and doesn't deserve a thing but deep down he still cares so he wants to get her something!

He is AMAZING with my parents and always knows what to get them - helps me out with ideas for my Dad (who is a pain to buy for!) all of the time.

If it was any other birthday I would have got the usual perfume, however as its a big one (and I spend £100 on my parents on a normal birthday) I thought it should be something more special.

It's got to be flowers then. Nice ones, obv, not some forecourt fancies. Don't go mad and spend a ton on her though - it doesn't sound like she deserves it, tbh

And you're totally right; despite my first post, I'd be more than happy to do this for my OH too. It's him you're making the effort for isn't it, not your MIL, and I'd never begrudge doing something for my OH.

Oops! Just seen your edit. I'm sure the bracelet's beautiful and silver jewellery always goes down well I think. If she doesn't want it, can I have it?