Hormonal almost 7yr old?? Anyone else?

Bloomin_Freezing2

DD1 has been an absolute nightmare lately, for no apparent reason spiteful to DD2, crying about the silliest things, throwing toys , slamming doors etc, I've spoken with teachers who say she is playing up a little at school but nothing serious. I have begged her to tell me if there is a problem at school, telling her I can help.

Nothing has changed in our home life to set her off. She has been horrid to her little sister every day for almost 2 weeks now, nothing has happened with her sister, and me taking the little ones side to upset DD1 so I have no idea whats going on with her! Oh and she goes to be at a reasonable time so she's not tired.

She told me she doesn't know why she's angry but she just is.
I've noticed a few longer hairs under her arms and between her legs (whilst putting calamine all over her a few weeks ago for chicken pox), and she has commented herself on her little 'bumps' on her chest. I started early, periods at 10 and other more obvious signs before then.

Does anyone else have experience of this? If it carries on i'll make a dr's app.

Thanks in advance.

balletshoes

maybe it would be an idea to get her a book that you can read together, about growing up and changes in our bodies as we get older? There are a fair few age-appropriate titles to choose from (amazon is a good place to look).

It might help reassure her that what she's starting to go through will be what everyone else will go through too.

balletshoes

Bloomin_Freezing2 wrote: »

She told me she doesn't know why she's angry but she just is.

yep, had that, almost word for word, from my DD a couple of years ago. We had to work hard at her stopping and thinking before saying what she was going to say, as it was pure anger. My work colleague with an older daughter calls it the "satan posessed" effect, you can actually see the change in her face before she explodes. Scary the first time it happens!

eta - as far as taking her to the doctors, hmm I'm not sure. You're in the best position to make that judgement. When you were her age or starting to grow up, would going to the doctor's have helped you?

Millie2008_2

I'd have a word with your GP now to be honest and he/she will be able to put your mind at rest at the very least. Aged 6 is very young to be going through such changes. But in the meantime, I agree that an age appropriate book to read together is a good idea

Bloomin_Freezing2

Thanks everyone, should've added I did in fact buy a book online last night. i've told her its on its way and its about girls and what heppens as they get older. i'm quite open with her, although we haven't discussed periods or anything she is aware of tampons and pads etc that i have in the bathroom and she knows they go in my pants! She is the youngest in her year group and not 7 until end july.

I have noticed some 'normal' discharge in her knickers at times, she asked me what it was and i explained its her bodies way of cleaning, noses have bogies etc.

Bloomin_Freezing2

Balletshoes -good point. I remember my Dad taking me to the Dr and dr asked how heavy my periods were whilst sat next to Dad:eek:, I was so very embarrassed!!

Nicki

Yes I'd take her to GP to be checked for precocious puberty. I think breast buds and pubic hair before the age of about 8 is a sign and it should be checked out. You'll probably be referred to an endocrinologist for a second opinion. My DD is 11 and only just showing these signs BTW and we were advised first period usually arrives about a year after breast buds start to sprout.

Notsosharp

It might be hormones it might not.

I do remember when my DD was six/seven and she was exactly the same. She would have temper tantrums at the slightest thing and the "satan effect" was very much in evidence a lot of the time. She also wouldn't sleep at night and some nights she was up until three/four in the morning.

Does she like her class teacher? My DD was also quite well behaved at school but she would come home crying because she didn't like her class teacher. When she changed classes her behaviour improved. It might be worth asking her about that?

Me and my mum looked online and apparently it's quite common for girls to behave like this between the ages of six/seven, some of it is to do with hormones I think but I can't quite remember sorry.

I just remember my DD was very badly behaved between these ages but just as I was starting to despair she turned eight and although she's no angel now she isn't quite as bad as she was then.

I would talk to her and reassure her, tell her she's not the only one that's going through this. A lot of girls are going through puberty earlier and earlier.

There's also peer pressure, my DD came home talking about being too fat at the age of 7 and her friends were all talking about going on diets, boyfriends, make up etc. They're just made to grow up too early now, maybe she needs to feel she can still be a child?

Hope that helps, if nothing else at least you know now it will (hopefully) get better

Bloomin_Freezing2

Notsosharp - she really enjoys school, and loves her teacher, she's always making the teachers cards and pictures. I'm going to make a real effort for some me and her time, see if that helps. I'll let her stay up with us downstairs fri/sat night and watch tv with me and her dad, make her feel a little more of the grown up sister.

She refuses to wear a particular school cardi now as it 'makes her arms look fat'. She is a lean, tall girl and not fat in the slightest. Obviously its come from school, kids can be so unkind.

In_a_quandary_2

I have four daughters. Unfortunately, it's par for the course!

emsywoo123

OP I have PM'd you.