relinquishing executor rights... thoughts please.

xxdeebeexx

NAR wrote: »

I totally agree. Was this will done through a solicitor, doesn't sound like it. She needs to get a properly worded will written to reflect her wishes asap.

Through a Will writing service I think. Maybe I need to cast my eye over the Wills. It may be that my brother has misinterpreted it.

dx

demented_weasel

Be careful of the will writing lot - they tend to appoint themselves as executors.

And then they can charge a lot for their "services".

Free/cheap up front, but when it comes to the final bill, it can be quite a lot of money for some fairly straightforward form filling.

I have been the executor on two wills in the last year.

If the "professionals" had been involved, I am sure they would have wanted around £70k+ from the two together, and these were simple wills!.

xxdeebeexx

demented_weasel wrote: »

Be careful of the will writing lot - they tend to appoint themselves as executors.

And then they can charge a lot for their "services"

I don't think they have appointed themselves as executors ...... but then again, I haven't seen Dads Will.

dx

rpc

As said above, powers could be reserved (so that the role can be taken back up at a later date). I don't see why brother can't do the work, then just post off forms that need signatures etc?

If that is how your mum's will is worded, it is dodgy and should be replaced as a matter of urgency.

willow_loulou

Dont allow it, I have a POA have discovered all sorts of indiscretions from other family members, it might be easier for him but tbh the whole POA was sorted via post and was so simple the making it harder is really just taking a little longer. If her will is vague get a new one written with a new local to her solicitor. It is not expensive and is worth the money.

ps I know POA is a different thing but the system is similar having been an exec as well.

Good luck

daska

As it stands you are both still executors and are therefore entitled to see the will. Personally I'd be worried if a family member took all the paperwork away without talking it through beforehand and arranging to send copies! So, on balance, no, I wouldn't agree to giving up your role as executor. Rather I'd get in touch with the probate office and make sure that you are involved - don't wait until you get the paperwork informing you that he's already taking action.

sharnad

Iwoukd get your brother to send you copies of everything. Maybe your mum could not be involved but your sister still could. He sounds dodgy about your mama will alr

ognum

I would suggest your mum does this with your brother. mt sister and I were executors for my mother estate and while I did all the work everything that needed signing I sent to her to check and sign and she returned to me, it may have cost £50 in registered letters but it meant we were both involved.

I then kept a spread sheet that I forwarded to her weekly with everything that had been done.

This was not an easy estate with several will trust to dissolve with missing solicitors to find etc but we did it all in 6 months.

I think it is better to do it together.

meg72

Having similar problems at the moment, and we havent even had a funeral yet. thereis absolutely NO REASON for your Mum or sister to relinquish their rights as executors. Your Brother sounds a very controlling person, in that he has taken all the paperwork, Executors can act together or independantly to suit all parties. I would think it a bad move to give him sole rights.