What will happen now we are together as a couple

sarahd1988_2

I have been claiming Income Support with a disability premium for ages now because of an Aspergers Diagnosis. The diagnosis was dropped when I was re-assessed at 21, but I still continued getting my benefits. I was told I had difficulties but they were not fully specified. I do not qualify for disability living allowance because I am classed as too independent and I also live without support. I am currently 18 weeks pregnant. I have thought about finding a job in the past but I lived with a male friend and did all his cooking and cleaning and he was happy to support me.

My now partner has ADHD and mild learning difficulties from a brain infection he had as a child and he gets about £275 DLA a month. He also gets the disability rate for jobseekers allowance because he wants to find work and he gets about £300 of it a fortnight, although he's having trouble being accepted by employers. He is 21 and I am 24.

We have just been given a council flat courtesy of my partner's supported living helping us. We don't move in officially until Sunday because it's still being furnished and decorated but the housing benefit has been sorted.

I am not sure what to do with my income support. I am not in a position to go looking for a job. In November I will have a baby to care for and I already look pregnant. I am also a firm believer that a woman who has children should stay at home and look after them. I am not a believer in all this feminism and gender equality in the workplace malarky and my first duty is to my family. I would be very upset if I had to neglect the people who need me to go out and work. Thing is my partner has more difficulties than I do. Although to most people he appears normal he can be very forgetful due to mild brain damage and he has difficulty doing some every day things. I do all the housework, cooking and cleaning and I have to make sure that my partner looks after himself otherwise he begins to self neglect.

Can my partner come off of the jobseeker's and claim income support with me? If so how long will this take? We have catalogue and internet bills to pay off and do not want to get into debt. We manage on the money we are on but I know eventually that I will have to notify jobcentreplus about living with a partner. What will they do?