inheritance, mental health and disability/housing benefit

Mojisola

Dunroamin wrote: »

There's nothing to stop you drip feeding him the money as long as he's declared it and has stopped claiming any means tested benefits.

Wouldn't this be best? Give him the amount of money he's been living on (or even a bit more) each week so that he can continue to manage his life.

You could have the money into an account in his name but with you having permission to manage it. It's important for his health not to overwhelm him with responsibility but you also need to comply with the probate laws and you can't keep the money in your name because that would raise all sorts of other issues.

Jemma-T

Mojisola wrote:

You could have the money into an account in his name but with you having permission to manage it.

Mind the OP wrote:

slartibartfast1 wrote:

At the moment I am frustrated and do not wish to be involved with him any more than I have to.

I do feel for the OP because my father had a similar thing with his brother and due to lack of love/awkwardness/being men etc it became a bit of a mess for all involved.

It might be a good thing for the OP to become more involved but that could be a very big investment from their life.

Whatever happens he should get his money then he can decide on a good day what to do. If he gambles it, gives it to gypsies or burns it he can live with the consequences just like the rest of us. If he's mentally ill when he did it then he'll be entitled to his benefits. Obviously.

Give the guy some respect and his dosh.

Mojisola

slartibartfast1 wrote: »

it seems that since hearing of this he has had a relapse and is back in hospital.

My brother can be at best be described as being in a chaotic state. Certainly not capapble of managing a sum of money like this over a couple of years.

The stress of contemplating managing this money has caused a deterioration in his mental health.

Jemma-T wrote: »

Mind the OP wrote:

Originally Posted by slartibartfast1
At the moment I am frustrated and do not wish to be involved with him any more than I have to.

Whatever happens he should get his money then he can decide on a good day what to do. If he gambles it, gives it to gypsies or burns it he can live with the consequences just like the rest of us.

Give the guy some respect and his dosh.

I did read what slartibartfast wrote but he's obviously concerned about his brother and keeping a financial connection may be the only way he can help him.

To give a big lump of money to someone who has ended up back in hospital at the mere thought of it is not giving him respect! It's akin to giving an alcoholic relative a crate of vodka or a junkie a bucket of drugs.

perthperson

Jemma-T wrote: »

I did't call anyone a retard or an idiot -my point was people (including the OP) are treating someone like it because they think he's not well enough to bank a bit of cash.

This thread has nothing to do with mental health either, just people's perception of it or to be accurate, people's perception of people with the illness.

My post should never have been removed and shame on the moderator for doing that with no good reason (knee jerk, being chronically PC and ill-informed are not good reasons -try and be a bit more subtle).

And the guy still doesn't have what's rightfully his.

you won't leave it alone will you ... you did use the word 'retard' - you didn't call anyone on the thread a retard. I complained about it, I expect other people did too.

You have a very strange view of mental illness.

xylophone

My relationship with my brother is solely financial

Do you have his bank details? If so, you can simply credit his account with the cash, advise him by letter and then leave him to deal
with his benefits?
If you are "not your brother's keeper" and don't wish to be, then this is the logical course of action?

Cuckooclock

WoW be careful this could be trolls.

Strange how someone has identified to OP.