Advice Required on Homelessness

BigAunty

Best wishes and good luck for your interview. You sound very resourceful, you've got drive in circumstances that would cause other people to give up in despond.

kaya64

you deserve this job and i really wish you luck and that your future will now be on the up.
i was feeling rather low today with some personal things going on right now, but when i read about your situation it made me realise just how fortunate i am , i feel ashamed because i felt this way, but your situation kicked me up the butt and made me grateful for the things i have.

Hope the interview goes well and all the very best for your future
:beer: God bless you xx

Ellejmorgan

The general needs band isn't right...
When in refuge/homeless you are on a band 1 priority emergency need...

I don't think they thought you were in crisis, this doesn't sound right and I would question it further...

I also think your ex should be helping you out, unless you've been fowl to her that is, and I don't know the full story but I do think if it's as you've written that she still has a duty to ensure you have somewhere to go...
You have a child together, what affects you, affects the child your daughter must be worried for you...It shouldn't matter about your ex wanting to move another in, she should ensure you are in a position to move on even if it means you kip on the floor with an agreement in place...

earthbound_misfit

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

The general needs band isn't right...
When in refuge/homeless you are on a band 1 priority emergency need...

I don't think they thought you were in crisis, this doesn't sound right and I would question it further...

Unfortunately this isn't true (most people only find out when they're homeless...) To get emergency accomodation, ie. a roof over your head now, you need to be counted as 'priority need' as well as homeless. Priority need can include those with dependent children or disabled people, but it depends on the area what they include.

The private rented scheme through the council sounds like your best bet tbh, also perhaps it may be possible to rent a room temporarily - just for a roof and an address while you get sorted.
You should be able to claim JSA whilst homeless, although I realise your interview isn't until monday...
You should also be able to get a crisis loan though again I'm not sure about over the weekend: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/moneytaxandbenefits/benefitstaxcreditsandothersupport/on_a_low_income/dg_10018856
I'm sorry I don't have more advice, sorry but your ex sounds like she is being really nasty over all this, you don't deserve that.
Good luck in your job interview

counterfeit

My wife and I have been having problems for some time and whilst she has been working full time I have been a full time house husband and doing all the things that entails. I didn't realise our problems were so bad that this situation could arise.

A lot of men say that this makes them feel unfulfilled as they are not providing for their family but to be honest it is very rewarding to be able to spend so much time with the kids as I felt that I had more or less missed out on so much of their development.

However, that didn't stop me from spending at least 2-3 hours every day trawling the internet for jobs, applying for them, registering with agencies etc. I have done 3 days work on the local elections but that's it in over a year.

I appreciate the thoughts of people who say my wife has a duty to look after me but ask yourself the question - would you stay in a house with the partner you still love when they are sleeping with somebody else? I would rather sleep in my car than endure that. At least it's not winter and it is relatively warm.

Ellejmorgan

earthbound_misfit wrote: »

Unfortunately this isn't true (most people only find out when they're homeless...) To get emergency accomodation, ie. a roof over your head now, you need to be counted as 'priority need' as well as homeless. Priority need can include those with dependent children or disabled people, but it depends on the area what they include.

The private rented scheme through the council sounds like your best bet tbh, also perhaps it may be possible to rent a room temporarily - just for a roof and an address while you get sorted.
You should be able to claim JSA whilst homeless, although I realise your interview isn't until monday...
You should also be able to get a crisis loan though again I'm not sure about over the weekend: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/moneytaxandbenefits/benefitstaxcreditsandothersupport/on_a_low_income/dg_10018856
I'm sorry I don't have more advice, sorry but your ex sounds like she is being really nasty over all this, you don't deserve that.
Good luck in your job interview

Being homeless get's you priority banding, it takes a while to get it though, took me 2 months, but that bit is only essential for rehousing not for help with now..
Don't know what you are trying to say, but homeless is the top priority, higher than medical, transfer and general needs...

You might be lucky you only want a 1 bed and there are loads in leeds...

princessdon

I have read this thread several times and have zero advice other than to say your OH sounds like a twonk! I wish you well and hope the job works out. Clean fresh start and all that!

counterfeit

princessdon wrote: »

I have read this thread several times and have zero advice other than to say your OH sounds like a twonk! I wish you well and hope the job works out. Clean fresh start and all that!

Twonk - I like that. Actually, I have called her far worse things over the past few days. Not in front of the kids though. After a few days of utter disbelief and trying to sort myself out I have found that I have gone through the despair and heartbreak stage very quickly, through anger too.

I am a very relaxed sort of person and I found the stress was very debilitating. I have to get on with life and get sorted for my kids' sake if nothing else. To that end, I have started to look forward. I looked at a few flats yesterday and have now started the process of getting myself a place to call my own.

Oddly enough after what has happened I am really positive about this. I will enjoy having some space to myself and some life again instead of being a housebound househusband.

ps. guess who is looking after the kids after school??????