Ideas to get 9mth old to sleep through!

mishkanorman

have you tried the dream feed ?? its the baby whisperers technique,

basically what worked well for us is getting to them before they wake hungry, we used to leave him asleep in his cot and give him his bottle, then pick him up to wind him only (usually the act of just picking him up would clear all the air) and lay them straight back down and leave the room. If she always wakes at 11pm then you need to go in at say 10:30/45 so they dont start to stir.

The thinking behind it is you feed the hungry belly without creating a 'habit' of being awake at a certain time so when they get to a slightly older stage and arent needing night time snacks you can drop the bottle without having to re-train a new routine.

SqueekyMouse

There are other sleep training techniques apart from controlled crying for babies of your LO's age. For example we've just started using Pick-up-put-down on our 11 month old.

It was a huge change for her because I used to feed her to sleep in an evening and then cuddle or feed her to sleep in the night. When we started 2 weeks ago she was waking upto 5 times a night, now she wakes only once (which is bang on 3:30 every night so it's a habit I'm going to tackle next)

Basically you put baby in her cot awake
if she cries, you pick her up, calm her down with a stock phrase like "mummy's her go to sleep" and a cuddle. Then when she's stopped crying immediately put her back down again. If she starts to cry, put her all the way down before you pick her up again. Keep doing this over and over until she's calm in her cot, then keep your hand on her tummy and repeat your stock phrase "Mummy's here..." etc. She will eventually go to sleep (it took 1h 1/2 the first night, then 40 min the second, then 10 min the 3rd night)

Each time she wakes in the night you repeat this (I know it's exhausting!) The theory behind it is that it allows your baby to learn that they can go to sleep by themselves.

Although your baby will still cry it won't get to the same level or intensity as you'd have to endure with controlled crying. It does take longer to get results though

There's also a halfway house technique you could google called "pick up put down/cry down"
Which sounds like 20min of pick up put down followed by 10 min of controlled crying and repeated for as long as it takes

raven83

*Twinkle* wrote: »

my 9 month old girl is my 3rd child, my other two were 'textbook babies', i fed them, changed them, played with them and they slept! little legs tho is a different matter so i'm asking you parents how can i get her to sleep through the night?
She goes to bed 7 to 7.30, she will sleep solidly til about 11pm then i'm in an out of bed all night with her, she will demolish 8 oz of milk during the night and then just be restless, wimpering and crying, not screaming though. we get up at about 6.30 ish and by 9am she will go back to sleep for 2 and a half, maybe 3 hours cos she is so tired!
i am shattered, i dont want to let her cry it out as my partner has a new job where her has to be up at 4.30 am so i dont want to disturb him, or the other kids.
She has never really slept through the night at all and i dread night time now.
i am currently expecting again and i really hope i can settle her before the new baby comes or i'll be a zombie!:eek:
all ideas welcomed please

When i had my first daughter, she was a nightmare and wasn't a good sleeper at all, this was partly down to lack of routine (lived with my parents, plus her dad would come over in the evening and want time with her etc) it wasn't until i moved into my own place when she was 5 months old (she was getting me up every 2 hours at this point) i had had enough at this point, that i did the crying retreat thing (not sure what the proper name is for it now) So next time she cried i would leave her for a good ten mins to cry, then i would go in there, settle her down without making eye contact or speaking to her then i would leave and she would cry again, this time i would leave her for about 15 mins and then go and do the same as before, leaving it longer every time. With in about 3 days she was only getting up once or twice and i would do the same thing, and within a week she started going through the night :j and if she did wake she would get herself back to sleep without crying, it hadn't been easy but it was well worth it. Difference is though she was my first and had her own room so i could leave her to cry and she wouldn't disturb anyone else (except maybe the neighboughs;)) In your case though as it is your youngest i am guessing leaving a baby to cry isn't going to be practical as she will wake the others. Maybe you could arrange so that your older 2 maybe sleep at their nans for a few days then try it out, but like i say i am not sure what i would do in your posisiton as it is a more difficult situation to what i was in.

SqueekyMouse

I can completely recommend this book, it pulls together lots of techniques from different people and helps you to understand why your baby has sleep problems. It also has a section with advice for dealing with siblings when sleep training a baby - It's really helped us
You could ask your library to order you a copy in true MSE spirit!
There's also an associated website, but I've not looked at it in any detail