Nice people thread part 6 - thrice by twice as nice :)

Spirit_2

Social media. Relationship status updates. Why do it?

My DD started dating a new fellow some months ago. After a month or so he he puts himself in a relationship with her on FB which she accepts.

Yesterday she brings relationship to an end, texts her dad and I to tell us and to say she is not sad about it, then tonight changes her status to single.

DD is 24 newest ex is 35.

I am besides myself with this, I understood it when she and her bf of 4 years had this - they got together at 6th form - but subsequent relationships ?

Do I say something or mind my own business? I think I know the answer to this - it is nothing to do with me.

I feel old generation and worried and mumsy about public profile.

NP...put me straight. Please

CKhalvashi

michaels wrote: »

Not venturing this on the main board with an immigration topic but I am fed up with the Tories for playing politics with people's lives. They could easily have supended the LMU from taking new foreign stdents and got them to revalidate existing ones but instead they did something draconian to garner headlines and get the headlines that 'finally something is being done about immigration'...and s*d those who have spent tens of thousands and spent 3 years studying and are now unable to complete their courses. Gesture politics is abhorent but when it directly srews up peoples lives in order to get a headline I can't think of NP words to describe matters.

I'm in full agreement here!

CKhalvashi

Spirit wrote: »

Social media. Relationship status updates. Why do it?

My DD started dating a new fellow some months ago. After a month or so he he puts himself in a relationship with her on FB which she accepts.

Yesterday she brings relationship to an end, texts her dad and I to tell us and to say she is not sad about it, then tonight changes her status to single.

DD is 24 newest ex is 35.

I am besides myself with this, I understood it when she and her bf of 4 years had this - they got together at 6th form - but subsequent relationships ?

Do I say something or mind my own business? I think I know the answer to this - it is nothing to do with me.

I feel old generation and worried and mumsy about public profile.

NP...put me straight. Please

Are you female Spirit? I thought you were....errm...never mind :eek:

I've shown as 'In a relationship with Sopho Toroshelidze' for about 6 years now. I still do, even though we're now engaged and don't really think it matters that much.

CK

Generali

michaels wrote: »

Pushing the boundaries of NPness now Mr G...does that mean on the rest of the board you will stop defending retail bankers rights to charge a monthly fee for having our money for free and start defending the vital role investment banking plays in the world economy to maintain our living standards etc?

You'll have to wait and see! I guess it depends on whether I can find a moment away from stuffing my face with apples and biccies!

michaels

Spirit wrote: »

Social media. Relationship status updates. Why do it?

My DD started dating a new fellow some months ago. After a month or so he he puts himself in a relationship with her on FB which she accepts.

Yesterday she brings relationship to an end, texts her dad and I to tell us and to say she is not sad about it, then tonight changes her status to single.

DD is 24 newest ex is 35.

I am besides myself with this, I understood it when she and her bf of 4 years had this - they got together at 6th form - but subsequent relationships ?

Do I say something or mind my own business? I think I know the answer to this - it is nothing to do with me.

I feel old generation and worried and mumsy about public profile.

NP...put me straight. Please

Aside from the fact that it sounds more like something for teenagers, I don't think I would want to advertise the number of relationships I had had, especially not the ones that lasted only a few weeks....I am so old and last century aren't I.

Generali

michaels wrote: »

Not venturing this on the main board with an immigration topic but I am fed up with the Tories for playing politics with people's lives. They could easily have supended the LMU from taking new foreign stdents and got them to revalidate existing ones but instead they did something draconian to garner headlines and get the headlines that 'finally something is being done about immigration'...and s*d those who have spent tens of thousands and spent 3 years studying and are now unable to complete their courses. Gesture politics is abhorent but when it directly srews up peoples lives in order to get a headline I can't think of NP words to describe matters.

<NP mode off>

I haven't followed this closely but from what I read, it seemed like the Uni had had a bunch of warning and simply hadn't sorted themselves out.

I feel sorry for the students but there's no point in having a regulator that doesn't have the power to sanction the regulated: maybe the punishment is wrong but it is the one that has been mandated by Parliament. When a regulator doesn't punish the regulated you end up like Northern Rock: the FSA kept saying that they were sailing too close to the wind but did nothing about it.

The Government should be doing something to help out the students but the action taken against the Uni is correct IMHO. They were given several chances to fix this and didn't: almost 2/3rds of students had papers processed incorrectly. What if one of them was a convicted rapist or terrorist?

<NP mode on>

zagubov

Well done, gen, on landing the job.:beer:

Got to travel 400 miles to pick up new car (well second-hand)we're buying in a private sale.

Got to sell off the old one at the same time. In two minds to drop it off at an auction down south or up north - expect I might get more down here but it would cost us only about £80 in petrol to use it to get us up there. Sell it off, drive the new one back (that'll cost us £80 as well).

We both need to travel as the journey back's too much for one driver.

Or do what we did once before get cheap tickets to fly up there and drive back. Only catch is that the old cheap flights of £30-£50 or so for London-Scotland seem hard to find nowadays. :think:

Decisions, decisions.

Spirit_2

michaels wrote: »

Not venturing this on the main board with an immigration topic but I am fed up with the Tories for playing politics with people's lives. They could easily have supended the LMU from taking new foreign stdents and got them to revalidate existing ones but instead they did something draconian to garner headlines and get the headlines that 'finally something is being done about immigration'...and s*d those who have spent tens of thousands and spent 3 years studying and are now unable to complete their courses. Gesture politics is abhorent but when it directly srews up peoples lives in order to get a headline I can't think of NP words to describe matters.

I think the University had a large part to play in this mess. They have wanted the revenue without the rigour that overseas recruits requires. This is not a shock, they have had 6 months since a prior warning. I am not saying I like the consequences I just think it too generous to overlook the University as the root cause. I hope heads role there to be honest.

I am legally accountable for the immigration status of our staff. We have had our share of alerts about of false passports/visa's/ suspected terrorist enquiries/awol personnel. I personally review every incident and they are reported to our board...If we failed to remedy and learn from events and act on them, my job would be on the line, the employer would incur fines and lose its status as a sponsor (a disaster in some fields), we would have terrible press and concerns about quality of staffing, I would personally face a criminal charge. I/we have every incentive to make sure the machinery works.

If you want to be world class and diverse you have to recruit from the world including ticking all the bl**dy immigration boxes.

If you want to be an economically viable institution including attracting, retaining and honouring your contracts with overseas students that also requires internal assurance that you doing the basics well on their behalf and ticking all the bl**dy boxes.

zagubov

michaels wrote: »

Not venturing this on the main board with an immigration topic but I am fed up with the Tories for playing politics with people's lives. They could easily have supended the LMU from taking new foreign stdents and got them to revalidate existing ones but instead they did something draconian to garner headlines and get the headlines that 'finally something is being done about immigration'...and s*d those who have spent tens of thousands and spent 3 years studying and are now unable to complete their courses. Gesture politics is abhorent but when it directly srews up peoples lives in order to get a headline I can't think of NP words to describe matters.

There's a baby and bathwater clumsiness to this. It might have been warranted but this is like repossessing someone's parachute halfway through a skydive!

I knew someone who studied at the LMU when it was CoLP (later Guildhall uni). The whole business of converting polytechnics to unis seems ill-though-out. They were perfectly good things on there own right. Now two former polys (North London Poly alkso became a uni and merged with guildhall to make the LMU) are facing possible disaster.

If they wanted more people to go to uni the right thing would have been a massive expansion of the OU.

Rant over!

Spirit_2

zagubov wrote: »

Well done, gen, on landing the job.:beer:

Got to travel 400 miles to pick up new car (well second-hand)we're buying in a private sale.

Got to sell off the old one at the same time.
Decisions, decisions.

We have sold two cars on ebay. A discovery and a yaris. Both went for considerably more than we expected and with no fuss or special effort on our part. Mr S took pics including any damage and spelt out any mechanical flaws. Took calls from interested enquiries and had one visitor for the discovery (who was subsequently the winning bidder - and did drive the price up). Definitely would do this agin.