divorce after 16 mths of marriage

daniboy

My brother was very happliy married for 26yrs. They had two children now 19 and 16yrs. My sister-in-law died of cancer 4 yrs ago. This left the whole family shocked and devastated. My brother is a successful business man who is financially reasonably comfortable although his money has come from extremely hard graft. 3mths after my sister-in-law died along came a women who at very best can only be described as a calculating money grabber. I would rather not say what my worst thoughts about her are.
She then re-appeared about 6 mths after to offer her support to my brother who quite frankly did not know what planet he was on. Cutting a very long story short and despite lots of advice to the contrary my brother married this person in oct 2011.
It soon became known that she had been previously married to rich men three times and the soon ended with her being significantly better off. However she does not work (no reason why she can't work)and was claiming benefits when my brother met her.
Both his children are now living away from his home because of her unreasonable behaviour.
Things eventually came to ahead 2 months ago and my brother filed for divorce.
They are still living in the marital home with her two sons aged 21yrs and 16. The 21 yr old's girlfriend also stays every night.

Very expensive solicitors are now battling it out but my brother has been told that she can claim and get half of all his wealth.

She brought nothing to the marriage. She alledged she had £50,000 from the sale of her home which now transpires to be £68,000 of which she promptly spent on herself.

I know my brother is an adult and was well warned that this individual was intent on cleaning him out but any advice from forum members would be gratefully recieved. He is a decent, kind man who has being taken to the cleaners.:(

January20

Is this in England? because I thought in England if a marriage was less than 2 years old a judge not advise a 50/50 split? Anyway, ask the question on this forum: http://www.ondivorce.co.uk/chatdiscuss.htm

paddy's_mum

My advice? Stay out of it completely.

If they reconcile - and stranger things have been known to happen - you will be left on the outside looking in for having said way too much.

Once said, you can never take it back and hard words could alienate both the lady and your brother, forever.

By all means offer moral support and sympathy but honestly, don't get any deeper in. It only leads to tears. Good luck.

daniboy

January20 wrote: »

Is this in England? because I thought in England if a marriage was less than 2 years old a judge not advise a 50/50 split? Anyway, ask the question on this forum: http://www.ondivorce.co.uk/chatdiscuss.htm

Yes, it's in England. Apparently there was some recent case law in which the judge said the length of the marriage was irrelevant.:(
Thanks for the link x

daniboy

paddy's_mum wrote: »

My advice? Stay out of it completely.

If they reconcile - and stranger things have been known to happen - you will be left on the outside looking in for having said way too much.

Once said, you can never take it back and hard words could alienate both the lady and your brother, forever.

By all means offer moral support and sympathy but honestly, don't get any deeper in. It only leads to tears. Good luck.

Thanks Paddy's mum. I hear what you are saying. I don't think there is any chance of these two staying together. I did keep out of it for a long time.

I deided to support from the sidelines after she filled the shower head with cleaning fluid, wiped feaces on his hand towel and disconected his tv. She then went onto sell items from the house to pay her car(porsche) insurance despite maintance payment of £600 per month. This is paid after all other household costs are being met by my brother.
I could go on but I guess you get the picture.

Her last husband put her in hospital for a week!
The one before that threw paint through her front room window and slashed the roof of her car.

Facts all found out after she married my brother. Clearly the women has serious issues, namely no brain and a fondness for alcohol.

Thanks for your advice anyway , I'm grateful and I know you mean well.

Lexxi

How is she paying a solicitor with no money? If she is entitled to half if they divorce why doesn't he turf her out without the divorce? Or why not tell her he'll set her up with an apartment somewhere as long as she agrees to sign a contract to say she will keep away from him/his property then include in the contract he is only paying one month bills. You say your brother is a successful business man I'm sure he will have had people try to pull one over on him before.

RAS

daniboy wrote: »

I deided to support from the sidelines after she filled the shower head with cleaning fluid, wiped feaces on his hand towel and disconected his tv. She then went onto sell items from the house to pay her car(porsche) insurance despite maintance payment of £600 per month. This is paid after all other household costs are being met by my brother.

In which case he needs to get a list together of all the actions that might comprise haressment and to get a restraining order?

And maybe his kids could help by moving back in?

daniboy

Lexxi wrote: »

How is she paying a solicitor with no money? If she is entitled to half if they divorce why doesn't he turf her out without the divorce? Or why not tell her he'll set her up with an apartment somewhere as long as she agrees to sign a contract to say she will keep away from him/his property then include in the contract he is only paying one month bills. You say your brother is a successful business man I'm sure he will have had people try to pull one over on him before.

Her sister also has a wealthy husband (2nd) (seems like a family trait!) who is footing the bill for her solicitor. He has tried everything you say. She is sitting tight with with sons,mother,father who live oppersite and her sons girlfriend. These people have no shame what so ever. It is my belief that this was all planned.
My brother has met and dealt with peope trying to pull the wool over him put nothing on this scale and it's very different when you have had an intermitt relationship with someone.
He was very happily married to someone who supported him and completely loved him.
I think it was all too soon after his wifes death. He knows what a fool he has been but it does not help in this case.
He has been putting together a list to go for an occupation order. She hit him with a brush the other day and begged him to hit her.
My brother would never hit anyone let alone a women. Hopefully he will be out of it soon.
Thanks for your comments x

daniboy

RAS wrote: »

In which case he needs to get a list together of all the actions that might comprise haressment and to get a restraining order?

And maybe his kids could help by moving back in?

He has tried to get the kids to come back. His daughter is terrified of her. She screams obsencities in her face. His kids are not used to anything like this.
I have visited and called in but she is really hard faced with no shame at all.
She is clearly very practices at this sort of thing.

Caroline_a

I would say he needs to move out. All she needs to do is to produce a few bruises, accuse your brother of abuse, backed up by her two sons, and everybody will be feeling sorry for her!

I would move out, lodge the abusive stuff with his solicitor and try to get a restraining order whilst getting house back.