Help understanding 3rd year exam results

Gillyx

I wouldn't beat yourself up Fletch. He is young at 14, but he needs to understand what he does now, will severely impact on his future.

You could set aside specific time to do x activity, but even having the books open and sitting there doesn't mean he's taking it in or attempting to learn and revise. (I've been there and done that with my parents breathing down my neck, didn't work for me, I'd have the books in front of me and day dreaming about something else) Luckily for me I managed credit grades and highers but not with good marks and I kick myself now that I could have done better.

All you can do is sit him down, spell out the facts to him what and where revising will get him in life. Try and emphasise how little out of his life this time is, and how important the exams are. (can't guarantee he'l listen I didn't ) He has a year to pull his socks up before the exams that actually matter. You need to ask is it the work he's having difficulty with or does it just all seem like too much hard work?

I had friends who's parents offered financial reward (i.e £50 for every Grade 1 etc) it's not something I agree with personally, but it seemed to work in there case. Maybe some sort of incentive isn't a bad thing?

fletch3163

Am grateful for your input, thanks.

As one of a very large family I had little in the way of family resources, be it time or money. As the mother of one I just feel I should be able to give Jack the hand up I never had. Don't get me wrong, I did ok and didn't realise how much further I could have gone at the time, nor am I caught up in university and academia.

I know am lazy with mine and his time (working full time hinders personal time eh), I think am looking for a magic answer to make him less strong headed and more compliant to study. I just know he can do more. Cash incentives don't sit well but I might consider it.

He's a good boy and I just want him to be the best he can be:o