To tell or not to tell...my boss i have interviews

ska_lover

I have read this thread with interest, as I could have almost written the Original Post myself.

I am too just about to undertake interviews, after being with my company for 3 years. My boss knows I am not happy, and has attempted to make things right, but it is all hot air, he cannot meet my developmental needs, and their are certain person in the office who make peoples life a misery which the boss is too weak to deal with.

I have no intention of telling my boss that im going to an interview - why would I make life difficult for myself? I am pretty sure no one tells their boss, until they are handing in their notice.

Just pick one of the following excuses - Boiler packed up, waiting for repair man, or water leak (good for short notice time off) or home break in or pet ill and must take vets immediately,you could say illness migraine etc.

Good luck op

Sambucus_Nigra

an9i77 wrote: »

It's the hardest thing! Not so bad if you only get the odd interview but if I have a few lined up, and with second stages if I get that far, then it's not easy. Unfortunately I work in the middle of nowhere so it will prob be at least a half hour drive plus the time of the interview plus drive back = 2 hours, so not easy to do in lunchtime. I'll have to come up with a myriad of excuses, may even use dependents leave and pretend my child's carer is ill or something, but don't think I can get away with that one more than once or twice.

Right so what excuses can I use as well as that (i may have to bite the bullet and be immoral and lie to the boss)
Car broken down
Dentist
Awaiting delivery of a new sofa

Err.....

This is like pulling hen's teeth. People have been making up excuses for attending interviews for as long as people have been working. You make it sound like it's the splitting of the atom.

You don't need an excuse. You just say 'it's personal'.

I'm out.

an9i77

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

This is like pulling hen's teeth. People have been making up excuses for attending interviews for as long as people have been working. You make it sound like it's the splitting of the atom.

You don't need an excuse. You just say 'it's personal'.

I'm out.

Thank f for that SN as I'm getting rather tired of your belittling attitude. Don't post if you don't want to - no one's forcing you. Or maybe you quite like the sense of superiority you get when you take the mick out of people's posts? Anyway, I'm glad you no longer want to post on this thread cos you've not really said much of use anyway, and other people have managed to say their piece without using sarcasm or snidey comments which you seem unable to do quite frankly.

thorsoak

Personally, I have never ASKED for time off for interviews - I have taken it - phoning in/or just making the statement "I'm sorry, but I have to leave early/start late on ....... I know that its going to be inconvenient, and I'll make the time up. I can't explain the reasons for my absence at the moment, but I'll explain as soon as I can".

It works!

Old_Git

suppose you say you are sick and then someone phones asking for a reference

DCFC79

At my previous employer I told my manager I was looking for another job and he was completly ok with it(even gave me his postal and email address for references), id half expected him to quickly get on the blower to the owner and say so and so is looking for another job so offer him his payrise or let me go.

Just be honest with him, if you start lying then it could end up with you in a sticky situation.

Sambucus_Nigra

an9i77 wrote: »

Thank f for that SN as I'm getting rather tired of your belittling attitude. Don't post if you don't want to - no one's forcing you. Or maybe you quite like the sense of superiority you get when you take the mick out of people's posts? Anyway, I'm glad you no longer want to post on this thread cos you've not really said much of use anyway, and other people have managed to say their piece without using sarcasm or snidey comments which you seem unable to do quite frankly.

No - nothing like that. It literally does feel like pulling hens teeth.

However I would point out that this is a forum on the internet.

You asked whether to tell your boss or not. Some people have said yes - tell him and some have said not. I am in the not camp. I have given you options of how to do this. This is what you wanted.

It took [let me count] until post number 23 before you said you would take the 'leaving early/arriving late' option. :T

And in post 38 you can only think of 3 things in the whole wide world that could happen to you to warrant leaving early or getting in late before saying 'er...' :eek:

It's your life, you do what you want - I couldn't give a monkey's. However in future if you only want posts that agree with your own - then you might want to make it crystal clear in your opening post that that's what you are looking for.

People come on here with real employment problems - yours should have been sown up right at the start. But it seems like 3 steps forward and 5 back...so what started out as a quick response becomes an essay in trying to persuade someone that - really - you would be better off not telling your current employers that you are looking for another job.

It's really very basic employer-employee stuff.

jfh7gwa

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

It's really very basic employer-employee stuff.

Exactly.

an9i77, if you don't like the advice given, please (and I mean this genuinely) do what you think is best.

But please do also come back and post on here if/when the naive attitude you display backfires on you, and you get fired/have to endure a terrible working relationship with your boss because of your actions.

DCFC79's boss sounds like one in a million (his boss taking it well) and is not the norm in any workplace/situation I've witnessed your scenario play out. It happens, as I've read similar stories on here before, I'm sure, but not often.

Good luck with whatever you do, anyway.

BobQ

I think you are making too much of this. There is no need to tell your employer or boss

I can understand you not wanting to ask for time off by pretending to be ill but just say you have some personal issues which will take a few weeks to sort out and you need a little flexibility around your normal hours. Explain you are not looking to abuse the flexibility and you are very happy to make the time up by starting earlier or working later on some days. Obviously if the boss will not accept this then you are forced to invent appointments.

ska_lover

OP, Sambucus Nigra was actually trying to help - I have read SN's posts on a variety of subjects and have never noticed anything but helpful advice. Dont get me wrong, there are many a*r*seholes on here, but SN certainly isn't one of them

The point was, all along, why make a mountain out of a molehill and SN became exhasperated because you didn't want opinions or real world advice, all you ever wanted was for people to agree with you.