Are landlords allowed?

Blacksheep1979

BigBouncyBall wrote:

You have to check what clause is in the contract about access to the house, you may find the landlord has sneekily left out the fact he needs to give notice

there is no 'law' reguarding landlord access, in one house i lived in the landlord had to give 2 weeks notice!!

It comes under the covenant for quiet enjoyment and also for not being harrassed it is in the law.

brazilianwax

Hope your daughter has insurance for her belongings, regardless of the landlord arrangements.

ames123_2

The person from the agency that shows people round our rooms normally puts a note through the door saying he is showing people round tomorrow or whenever day at such and such a time and if we are not in, to leave our doors unlocked.
I think her landlord should of given a bit more notice than the on the day that I think, from your message, she gave.

mhoc

Oldernotwiser wrote:

The problems only lie in wait for you because you keep getting involved! You're obviously really concerned about your daughter but you need to back away; let her sort her own problems out. You're really not doing yourself or her any favours, in fact you seem to be becoming quite obsessive about the finer points of your daughter's life and living arrangements.

Problems that dont get resolved dont go away just because you ignore them.

We live over two hours away, any further backed away and we would be in the sea. We only get to see D for a few hours most months, this month it has been 15 minites and I expect it will be less and less as time goes on. The only contact is via mobile, text and the odd email.

Sorry but if a member of my family asks for help or advice I will do what I can for them. I will not ignore them or back away or be callous enough to tell them I dont want to be involved in their life or tell them if I help them I wont be doing myself any favours

Some of my daughters problems have been rumbling on for six months so obviously she has been unable to sort them out herself which is why she has come to her parents for advice.
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mhoc

brazilianwax wrote:

Hope your daughter has insurance for her belongings, regardless of the landlord arrangements.

She has had to take a lot of expensive kit with her - laptop, cameras, phones, ipods etc. Before she left home something was always getting broken, lost or stolen - she was getting phones broken/ smashed or stolen four or five times a year.

Everything is still in tact after six months !amazing! so there is hope and at least she is looking after her things better!
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kittiwoz

mhoc wrote:

We live over two hours away, any further backed away and we would be in the sea. We only get to see D for a few hours most months, this month it has been 15 minites and I expect it will be less and less as time goes on. The only contact is via mobile, text and the odd email.

I live around 200 miles and 4 hours from my parents by car (much less by train but the fares are expensive) and I don't see them for months on end. That is the normal thing that happens when you grow up if you live in different areas. I do have a good chat with them over the phone about once a week though. There have been times when I have avoided contact with them though and it is normally when I'm feeling depressed and that I'm not really in control and I'm worried they're going to nag me and take things over so I feel even less in control of my own life. Mostly though my parents are very good about offering me their support and opinions but not foisting themselves on me and taking over control of my life and I enjoy chatting with them. I seriously think you ought to think about why your daughter doesn't want to talk to you before she stops calling altogether.

mhoc wrote:

Sorry but if a member of my family asks for help or advice I will do what I can for them. I will not ignore them or back away or be callous enough to tell them I dont want to be involved in their life or tell them if I help them I wont be doing myself any favours

No one is saying you shouldn't offer help or advice but can you not do it in a less pro-active way without splashing every detail of her personal life over a web-forum full of total strangers? You say you wouldn't go in her room at uni because you respect her personal space and her privacy and yet you're reading her bank statements, complaining to her landlord and telling the money-saving students of the UK practically every detail of her life including that she was attacked by a taxi-driver! Why can't you suggest she go to the student union for advice? They know way more about tenant law then you do. Or give her the URL of this website if you can stand the though of her reading all the stuff you've posted about her.

mhoc wrote:

Some of my daughters problems have been rumbling on for six months so obviously she has been unable to sort them out herself which is why she has come to her parents for advice.

She's an adult. She is supposed to be able to deal with her problems or figure out where to go for help (the students' union is always a good start). You are supposed to have taught her how to deal with her problems as an adult. What you are doing is equivalent to doing her homework for her instead of teaching her to use an encycolpaedia and in the long term you're not doing her any favours. One day you will not be there to fix her problems for her.

Oldernotwiser

So much sense from one so young!

kittiwoz

Wow thanks. I take that as high praise from someone whose opinions I respect. I'm not that young though. I'm 24.

mhoc

The day has already been and gone when she had a problem she could not fix and we were not around.

I always refer her to uni or some department at uni if she rings home with a problem. It is then her choice as to wether she goes for advice there or not. If she does not then the problem is hers to sort out.

Her friends though seem to be even more clueless which does not help.

Bank statements do not come home but to the student address where they remain unopened. I have third party access as advised by someone on this forum back last year sometime. This is so I can deal with problems.
There was a banking error last December, the fault of the bank and I wrote to HQ and got a refund into the account. Few adults realise that they can challenge their bank or how to do it and I would not expect someone with their first student account to know this. She had dealines for essays to meet at the time so it was easier and quicker for me to deal with the matter.

She is not interested in the internet so is not interested in MSE.

Unfortunatley the landlord seems to be taking advantage of the fact that they are 1st year and mostly 1st time away from home

muddled_midget

mhoc wrote:

Unfortunatley the landlord seems to be taking advantage of the fact that they are 1st year and mostly 1st time away from home

LLs will mostly try and get away with doing things not quite properly. I left uni in July after 4 years, 3 years renting from private LLs. I don't consider that showing prospective tenants round is doing anything wrong, and would have considered it enough notice if just one of my housemates had been told when the people were coming.

I did find it a little bit weird when I came home from uni one day when people had been shown the house, to find that my bed had been made. Being the messy individual that I am, I knew it wasn't me, and realised that my LL must have done it prior to showing the house. Maybe I don't have the same issues as some people cos I just thought when I got into bed that night that it was a bit nicer and maybe I could see why folks made beds!!

One thing that did help us during our time was pointing out to each LL that one of my housemate's dad was a solicitor specialising in property and made a point of faxing over a contract prior to signing it. After that we didn't seem to have as many issues as some of my friends with problematic LLs