Ettiquette on being a plus one

FutureCooper

How about a token gift of a bottle of Champagne to accompany your friends wedding gift. That way you don't go empty handed and you can give it to the Bride and Groom yourself almost as a way of introducing yourself to them as their friends guest. A thank you goes along way but I am sure the B&G won't expect a gift from a plus 1. I certainly wouldn't but then i am not having a gift list at all.

Presence not presents and all that!! x

hock79

I'd go with what FutureCooper said, sounds perfect!

katie1812

Could you and your friend not contribute together? I would say that alone, you shouldn't spend more than £10-£15, but even then considering you don't know the couple, buying them something is a bit cheeky on their part! I don't think they would be surprised if you didn't get them anything, perhaps just a nice card would be sufficient - I think so anyways! At the end of the day you are going as your friend's guest so they should be thinking about what to get them

MrsDrink

I would recommend asking your friend to check with them whether they have a gift list/would like a gift. I know we don't want anything, and I hope that people respect our wishes.

youluckypanda

Thanks for all the replies everyone! Some great advice there.

Think I'm going to go with the champagne option, as I think my friend is getting them something personalized and I feel a little odd chipping in to it when I don't really know them.

Good shout about being introduced, can imagine that that moment could be easily missed in all of the hustle and bustle of the day and I think I'd also feel a bit weird being the unknown person!

Now just need to work out what to wear!:o

74jax

I don't think anyone should feel expected to give a gift. Giving a gift is a personal choice and done because you want too, not because you feel it is expected.

I would follow your friend's lead on this, ask to club in with her gift if you wish and go on a card with her.

I would make a point at the wedding of going to the bride and groom separately and thanking them for allowing you to share their day with them. Weddings are very costly and so to invite someone they have never met deserves a sincere thanks on the day.

I would also send a thank you card after the wedding, I normally do this a week or so after with a photo I have taken at the wedding, but in your case I would do so sooner.

And enjoy. You're very lucky.