So paranoid

Justme29

I have been with my husband for nearly four years and got married last September, and already the marriage is on the rocks.

We argue every day because of my paranoia, and jealously.

I was in a very abusive relationship when younger which I am still struggling with, as he used to both verbally and physically abuse me, and the words he said to me caused me to have very low self esteem and no belief in myself.

I have brought these problems into my current relationship and my husband is getting fed up with me.

When he goes out, I start to think the worst(that he's cheating on me) and now he will go out just to avoid being in the house with me.

I don't want to live like this, I want to believe him, and have confidence in myself but it is so hard.

He does wind me up, and can say horrible things when we argue but I know that I need help.

Dont really know what I'm asking for, but just feel better for letting it out.

babymoo

Huge hugs.

Does your husband know why you are behaving in this way?

Secondly do you really believe that your husband is cheating or are you just scared of losing him and being paranoid?

Thirdly I would go to your GP and tell them what you have told us, you sound a little depressed although I am by no means telling you that you are and I am not a trained medical professional so please don't take that as me telling you that you are. Your GP will be able to help you, perhaps you need counselling to deal with your previous relationship?

YoungBaker

Has your husband ever actually done anything to make you feel this way?

If not, and it is just down to your own self demons I'd suggest explaining to your husband how sorry you are for feeling this way and the implications it is clearly having upon your relationship. Stress to him how you do actually trust him and it is your issues, but you would love his support to work through them together.

I'd sugest maybe some sort of counselling or therapy to explore them, as perhaps discussing the issues will bring it to the surface and allow you to realise that this is in the past with a different person - not your husband of now.

Either way I think you need to really do your best to focus your energy into dealing with it or you will face losing your husband.