Stopping work?!?

Mumto3cheekymonkeys

I am better off working part time too although Im not sure of how it will effect you because im not a single parent. I find working part time a good balance Im not too tired to do the chores at home and im still home to be part of my boys life. I do however think that when my youngest start school (not for another 3 years) I will then think about going full time (well 35 hrs pw) simple because my hours are 7.30-2.30 which would still allow me time to come home do some chores and get dinner started. You have to balance it out with what YOU think is best for YOU and YOUR children.

SingleSue

I have no choice but to claim benefits as a single parent (or should I say a divorced parent) due to the disabilities of the boys making finding a job which fits into the care needs (and of course keeping one if by some miracle there was) and will allow me to leave at the drop of a hat when the school rings.

During school hours should suit but because there is more than one child who has a disability, I am forever at the school, or at the hospital, or at the doctors for one or another.

My life is pretty full on, the stress enormous but I would still love to be out there working and earning...even if it was just to be able to hold my head up in pride, I detest having to rely on the state, am embarrassed by it and find it shameful.

I had always worked, had always been a workaholic and even when the boy's disabilities were becoming clear, still worked but in the evening when now ex hubby could look after them as no child care facility would take them on.

My eldest son is of an age where he can work part time around his studies and boy does he, he will take every available hour offered to him and bearing in mind, he has to walk for an hour to get to work, there is no problem with his work ethic, he knows I would not allow him to sit around watching telly in his future life. The other two it is slightly more complicateddue to their disabilities but again, they have every intention of working.

Mumto3cheekymonkeys

You cant help your situation singlesue and you most certainly shouldn't be ashamed. You are in a very demanding situation which I could never understand (my 3 yr old only has a mild form of autisim) and taking care of children is a full time job in itself but when they have disabilities its even harder. Think positive and keep your chin up. You should also be very proud of your son for working so hard, this proves that he may very well be successful in the future both job and lifestyle wise.