Devastated with my wedding photos

Torry_Quine

I know that you might not remember every photo taken but how wouldn't you notice that there weren't any of you both and your daughter or you and the bridesmaids?

mrsgreenwood_2

we had EXACTLY the same problem. i asked photographer if he wanted a list of what photos i wanted, but they said no, theyre have so many yrs experience and know what shots to take.

it wasnt until we got the photos we realised we didnt have a family photo of myself hubby and 2 kids together, also didnt have one of me and my dad together.

they were very poor quality aswell. the photos my brother took actually came out alot better than the proffesional ones as alot were blurry.

its easy saying how didnt you notice on the day, but when youve just got married your heads all over the place, also, i dont know about op, but i had 2 young kids to look after and just didnt think at the time that these shots hadnt been taken.

i know how you feel and its awfull. we had to ask all family and friends for photos. we also got a full refund, although that day is gone now, and we will never get a chance to get them photos again.

hope you manage to get some lovely photos from others though

kitschkitty

Sorry to hear you were unhappy with your pictures. did you take out wedding insurance? If you can't get a resolution from your photographer it is the next step to consider.

ClareEmily

I got married 5 years ago, and remember how excited I was when I went through all my wedding photos, and I remember thinking how I would look through them all often.

But 5 years on, I have a few favs framed around the house, and the others are in an album not touched for years now.

I also wanted some photos that my photographer just didn't take and at the time I was really upset but now it seems really unimportant.

Hope you have got some good ones to display and that you had a lovely day to remember forever xx

VfM4meplse

mrsgreenwood wrote: »

we had EXACTLY the same problem. i asked photographer if he wanted a list of what photos i wanted, but they said no, theyre have so many yrs experience and know what shots to take.

The moral is, it's your wedding so take artistic direction. He who plays the piper calls the tune - always! If your potential photographer doesn't like it, find one that will do as they're told.

sugarwalsh

OP, I really feel for you. Unfortunately things can't be changed, so I guess the only tyhing which can be changed is perhaps your feelings towards the photos.

Are they bad quality? If so then I think you have a valid reason to complain to the photographer. If, however, you are missing some of the ones you want then approach the photogrpaher and ask if he has any of the ones you want. Our photogrpaher took approx 1000 pics and we received 330, so there is a high chance that in the ones you didn't get there will be a full length pic etc.

As others have said, ask friends for copies - we have had loads uploaded on facebook and some are great.

However, I really think the biggest problem is how you feel about them and this will have to alter so it doesn't begin to tarnish your memories of the day. A photogrpaher is there to capture the essence of the day, I hope he has managed to that for you. There are some 'missing' from our photo's which I would have liked, but in real life things just sometimes work out differently. Forget all those styalised magazine shoots, they have hours to prepare and can keep on shooting the same thing until they get the correct photo. A weddng photographer can only make the best of what they are presented with. For example, we idn;t have all the group shots we wnated, and in our family ones our little boy is absent because he just didn;t want to be included. That is just how he is! It is a shame, but we opted not to wspend all day posing for formal pics and once the moment had gone there were no futher chances.

Can you try looking at the photo's you do have positively? I know it sounds silly, but I can't see how the situation will improve for you otherwise.

Also - address the photogrpaher about how you feel - let him know. Yes, it may not help you but it will maybe help other brides and grooms not miss out. He may also be able to talk you over some of the choices he made o the day?

Lastly, for other brides, try to remember your photographer is NOT superhuman. Sometimes the pictures you had in your head just don't happen in reality. BUT as long as you are happy with the style and the quality of the picture don't dwell on the pictures you don't have, celebrate the lovely ones you do.

Mx