Devastated with my wedding photos

Sassa

Hello all,

I've just received my wedding photos and I'm devastated. There are no full length photos of me and my dress. No photos of the back of the dress. No photos of me and my bridesmaids, the list of group shots requested hasn't been taken. I'm so upset, I can't stop thinking about it. Has this happened to anyone else? The photographer wasn't cheap, either.

Debbiecatal

Do you remember posing for the photographs you requested? If so, ask where they are. In the first instance talk to the photographer, but don't get upset, just say that you were expecting a,b and c, and they don't appear to be in the proofs they sent you, so please can they forward them as soon as possible.

Check your contract, what did you agree to and what were the specifics that you requested that didn't arrive?

To begin to put things right - can they do a treasure the dress shoot for example?

What do you want them to do, either take more photos or give a refund or both? Be very clear in your mind what is wrong and how you want it put right.

Good luck.

Debbie

Idiophreak

Are the photos that you *have* got of an acceptable standard?

It may just be that the photographer has high standards and didn't feel the photos taken of the things above were good enough to include.

Having said that, a good photographer should be sure they've got good shots for the list of group shots...

Sassa

thanks for your messages.
I don't remember posing for the group shots that were supposed to be taken, so therefore he unfortunately won't have copies of them. Some of the photos that I have are of an acceptable standard, but others are not. I'm very upset that he didn't take a photo of my husband and I with our daughter, for example. This was on the list of group photos I wrote for him. I will check my contract tonight. It's so hard because we had a wonderful day and everyone looked beautiful. It will be impossible to recreate that. I feel very let down and am so upset.

Idiophreak

Sassa wrote: »

thanks for your messages.
I don't remember posing for the group shots that were supposed to be taken, so therefore he unfortunately won't have copies of them. Some of the photos that I have are of an acceptable standard, but others are not. I'm very upset that he didn't take a photo of my husband and I with our daughter, for example. This was on the list of group photos I wrote for him. I will check my contract tonight. It's so hard because we had a wonderful day and everyone looked beautiful. It will be impossible to recreate that. I feel very let down and am so upset.

Have you asked around for other people to send you their photos?

Some of our favourite photos are "unofficial"...

HannahIOW

Obviously it was a busy day for you, but why didn't you say to the photographer on the day about the missing shots? Surely you must have known that you didn't pose with hubby and your daughter?

Idiophreak

HannahIOW wrote: »

Obviously it was a busy day for you, but why didn't you say to the photographer on the day about the missing shots? Surely you must have known that you didn't pose with hubby and your daughter?

It is very easy to lose track, if you're not really concentrating on the photos - and there are plenty of other things to focus on on your wedding day!

Personally, I made sure the best men / ushers had a copy of the group shots and they worked with the photographer to make sure they all got done. Makes life a lot easier when there are a few people to round everyone up...A lot of people would just trust the photographer to get on with it...but I didn't want to leave anything to chance...

sariebeth

I know this must be horrible, but remember that even if you don;t have the photos, you had the day, the memories and you now have the rest of your lives

Im not married so haven't been through this but I can sypathise as my ex boyfriend burnt my only set of graduation photos, and I was devastated that I could never replace the pictures of such an important day in my life. Eventually I realised that I may not have the pictures but I have the degree and nothing can diminish that x

VfM4meplse

sariebeth wrote: »

Im not married so haven't been through this but I can sypathise as my ex boyfriend burnt my only set of graduation photos, and I was devastated that I could never replace the pictures of such an important day in my life. Eventually I realised that I may not have the pictures but I have the degree and nothing can diminish that x

Don't let it bother you, no one ever looks at their grad shots except to ponder on how much they had to fork out for the gown etc. Daylight robbery IMO.

becs

I second what Idiophreak has said about asking friends and relatives to their pics, that will at least get you pics of family and guests. I would certainly think about asking if he could do you a treasure the dress shoot to get some pics of you and hubby and daughter with some of the full length shots. I wanted to do similar as my hair was a complete disaster on our wedding day and I cringe a most of the pics of me, also my dress didn't fit properly as only arrived the day before the wedding. We've been married 5 years now and not got round to doing it and my dress is now 3 sizes too big!
Most of my favourite photos of the day are the casual ones of everyone enjoying the day and although our photographer took them, most of our guests had similar ones.

wifeforlife

I'd be bitterly upset too, and angry. Everyone knows how busy a wedding day is, for guests but most importantly the bride and groom. It's unrealistic to expect you to keep on track of everything on the day, you had clearly stated what you expected and wanted in the lead up to the day. These are photo's you can never get now, the photographer has taken this away from you.

Everyone above has given great advice, I'm just gutted it happened to you.