Breaking Up Advice

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I've been going out with a guy for a short period of time and he's very kind, generous and opens doors for me etc..
But I have now realised I dont feel for him the same way he feels for me he's already mentioned the future and having kids and getting a place together but I really dont want that with him!
I dont want to lead him on and hurt him even more So I really need to just end things with him!

I really dont want to hurt his feelings cause he's a lovely person (and I'd love to stay friends) but I just cant stay in a relationship when my hearts not in it!

Please any advice on the most pain free way to break up would be very much appreciated!

Thanks

odowdchr

If you're absolutely sure about it....be straight, clear and to the point.
He'll respect you more than if he finds out you've been dragging it out for months with no real intention of going further.
You will hurt him but that's unavoidable, he might not want to be friends at the moment because of the rejection, but that's something you'll have to anticipate and deal with.
Then stand firm, break off contact for a short time if you feel you need to. The sooner he gets back on his feet the better he'll be.
That's probably the kindest thing to do, even if it feels callous.
Give it some time and then gauge how he feels when the shocks worn off.

LewisC_2

He sounds like a nice bloke, so there's no need to be harsh about it. You can't help feeling the way you do, but you need to respect the way he feels too. Explain why you want to finish it - that it's no reflection on him, but you just can't see it going anywhere and aren't ready at the moment. Try to avoid a "rebound" fling or relationship too, as he's likely to be a bit offended and confused if that happens... trust me

grade15

give it to him straight..he deserves it ..whatever you do..its going to hurt him..

maybe when you are friends..you might miss him..but that is in the future.. :dance: good luck :dance: