Really need help!!

The_Palmist

You are either in it or you are not.

I don't think the new buyers are being pushy, they have made an offer which you have accepted. Why would you want them to delay things ? They are not turning up unannounced, they have asked for your permission to enter your home. That's fair I believe.

If anything, buyers who proceed quickly are desirable than those who don't.

They are obviously seeing your place as their own home and are as excited and you once were.

The_Palmist

It is always going to be a risk. What if this new place breaks down later on or if there is a big repair job coming up ?

Initial estimates can always go over your budget ?

Old character houses cost more to fix than new ones without "soul".

Plutoisnotaplanet

Sorry I should have qualified by saying pushy from the point of view that I work from home and they wanted to come in today (and are doing), which is not convenient for me. It's still my home, no money or signatures have been exchanged, so I have a say in when people can come in measuring when it's going to be weeks if not months before we move (they want to move during school half term), especially if it impedes me doing my job. So I suggested several other times and no, only today would do. So I've had to rearrange everything instead, and the estate agent wants us to make ourselves 'scarce', which I actually think is unfair - as I said, still my home.

We are very used to renovating places - we renovated this one. My husband is a carpenter and also did all the plumbing and tiling here. We both come from farming families, so are aware of the drawbacks of an older house; having said that, this new place may be older but it's not centuries old. The survey should bring up any imminent issues and we have an electrician friend who is going to test the electrics for us.

We have lived in this house 10 years (husband 13 years) and love it despite its lack of features (soul), but we're now late 20s and late 30s and looking for something different.

As I said, I think the initial nerves was due to the fact this was our first home and we did completely renovate it ourselves, which has resulted in a comfortable, beautiful family home. It just has a small garden and is not in the location we want to be longer term; someone also said to us to think about which house we'd rather be in once our children have left home, and it's the one we are hopefully moving to, so I guess our guts are telling us something.

I am a Libran and I'm afraid throughout life I have proven to be very typical of that sign (I don't usually buy into that stuff!), and can be very indecisive, panic when I do finally make a decision! There was also a thing on BBC Radio 2's Pause for Thought yesterday, about life being a constant limbo, whether it be being between properties, between relationships etc, and that did strike a truth cord!

Plutoisnotaplanet

And the couple buying this are lovely, so it's really not them being pushy, rather the estate agent's tone/way of negotiating things.

Our first offer for the other place has been turned down: it's been on over a year, couple in their 50s with one grown up daughter still at home, they have divorced and need to sell the house. The man (who has remained there) according to the estate agent, seems to want to stay (which, I suppose if you've brought up children somewhere is fair enough!). So have gone in a bit higher and shall see.

ruggedtoast

I suspect this is going to be a long thread.

Plutoisnotaplanet

Why's that?! I asked for advice, giving as clear a picture as possible, people gave it, I've thanked them for it and given responses to them. I don't think that's unreasonable, and I think I already said I'd felt guilty and silly and later that we are nervous and had been shown the true value of our home which raised doubts in our mind, and panic about the implications, hence posting here.

I don't really think it called for people being unnecessarily ascorbic!

Oh and for info, the contract stipulates no cost to us in this instance.

Thank you for responses. )
I won't bother you again.

GDB2222

For future reference, you can negotiate the estate agent's contract. So, I always insist that the EA's fee is only payable if the sale proceeds to completion. I also add in a couple of other conditions that I have never had to rely on in practice.

Edit: Oh, yes, I always read the contract very, very carefully before signing it!

go_cat

Plutoisnotaplanet wrote: »

Why's that?! I asked for advice, giving as clear a picture as possible, people gave it, I've thanked them for it and given responses to them. I don't think that's unreasonable, and I think I already said I'd felt guilty and silly and later that we are nervous and had been shown the true value of our home which raised doubts in our mind, and panic about the implications, hence posting here.

I don't really think it called for people being unnecessarily ascorbic!

Oh and for info, the contract stipulates no cost to us in this instance.

Thank you for responses. )


I won't bother you again.

Don't be put off by some responses on here there is a huge amount of help and advice to be had on here
Pleased you have finally sorted out in your head the right thing for you to do